BBC London Radio Interview – The Late Show With Joanne Good
Matthew was again invited back to talk over at the BBC, this time on BBC London Radio about why women just aren’t getting the guys they want. It seems women are falling into the same patterns and traps that have crippled their success with men and dating.
What you shouldn’t do is settle for less, not only does this prevent you from meeting guys that you ACTUALLY want, it pushes you into “fake relationship” that can only end one way.
Here’s some of what’s covered in the interview:
- Why the internet is harming our social lives
- The things your friends SHOULD be telling you but don’t
- Why men are not calling you back after the first date
- Why our seminars work
- How to be a “high value” woman
Listen to it now:
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We’d love to hear your views on the interview and any questions you may have, so make sure you comment below…
Very interesting!!!
Really enjoyed this…very informative and really made me feel positive about being an older woman! Just have to release my playfulness!!!
Having the right peer group is definitely key to meeting lots or just more guys. That’s another thing Get the Guy could offer – forums for members to the website to chat and/or events to arrange to meet up socially to support and encourage each other’s progress.
Hey Emma,
We were thinking about this, maybe a members area for “Women’s Weekend” attendees. May have to get everyone’s feedback on it at some point but good idea.
Matt
enjoyed that very interesting especially about how our friends speak to us about failed relationships…. why don’t they just be honest and tell us we are being too clingy!!!! lol xx
That was really good, I enjoyed listening to it.
I have really enjoyed listening to your interview.. I am in totaly agreement . I am 54 years of age , and i date younger men . I am lucky enough to still have some youth around me , as well my spirit is still young and seem to always attracted younger men . I took the plunge ( felt the fear and went for it any way ) and enjoyed the exsperience as much as my younger male friend did. I dont look at younger guys as being life long partners , as well dont sleep around either, but find a younger guy will enjoy the none entrapment of a realtionship bringing about regular contact . I think you dont have to prove to any one anything and more enjoy the flow of lifting the spirit.
Hi Matthew,
Interesting points … and as I was listening to you I wondered … confidence or competence, where is it that I tremble?
I look forward to attending the Secrets of Attraction in a few weeks to explore that further! Keep up the most excellent work,
Vikki
Can’t wait to see you there Vikki!
I hear people talk about being more playful and witty but no one has really said what is playful to a guy. What one guy considers playful another might think is crazy. And I don’t consider myself a quick and witty person. Do you address this in your book?
Yay Matt!! Big Up 50+ ladies! I internet dated for 4 years from age 42-45, met someone who lived an hour away who is 19yrs and 8months younger than me, but such a SPECIAL person. We dated for 5 months and then put an offer on a house, and were moved in together within 10 months! We are still together 6 years later. I am now 52 and he is 33 and we both mix well wth both sets of friends, my Dad (who is 87) thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread! He is far more stable than my previous husband and partner/father of my 2 children. Please dont settle for the obvious, we survive on humour and share a deep relationship together. Keep up the good work and please dig out all those unhappy 50+ ladies who are in stale relationships and totall wasting their lives. LY and your work x
When I was 50 and divorced, I dated guys half my age. After a while I realized I really wanted someone younger than I, but closer to my age. Since then I’ve only gone out with guys 2-6 years younger. But, some of them are hung up on being old men. I still get hit on by younger men, but they don’t interest me at all.
this is absolutely true… but it is hard to find a single women that completely willing to get into the mud and have fun… Interesting! ;D
Very interesting an true I really enjoyed reading it thanks for all the info its great I look foward th the emails its a big help it so true u learn something new everyday thanksagain
I agree that social media is harming our relationships more than it is helping them. That is one of the reasons I left facebook.
At 31 I find that I am more confident in general than I was at 20, however, since I have experienced more rejection, I feel I am less confident around men. I have not reached a point where I am giving up – but it does get a bit harder each time I take a risk. I wish there were a way to throw my expectations out the window!
Help! help!
I am sure I, like many, many others are grieving at the loss of “our” Big George.
I have phoned the local radio here in Milton Keynes and also London to find out where George’s funeral is to be held.
If you have any information, could you please let me know. I knew George when he was on Three County radio and he was so supportive to the local people in Bletchley who were opposed to an incinerator being built in our back garden. Big George even came to my house to our meetings.
I also would contact him if the weather was bad around Christmas to check the conditions when I wanted to take my grandchildren to London.
He was an amazing person and I hope there will be a service to celebrate this wonderful man.
Thank you.
Noeleen Burke
Hello everyone. Good stuff but, I live in Los Angeles. Ever think of jumping the pond?
Loved what you had to say about age … gives me hope since I may be in my 40s, but I have a highly active inner child who is irrepressible. Nice to know that’s a plus. I wish you’d do one of your programs in the Los Angeles area. :-)
Hi Matthew!
All the things you say are so interesting and informative.
I wish I could come to one of your live events but I don’t live in the UK.
Foremost I have to apologize to Matthew because not only was my internet down but my celluar device also decided not to cooperate.
With that said all I am saying is go B2B which is Back 2 Basics… even though I am only 19 I have the spirit and the playfullness of a Kindergartner. I try to do things they way a child would because as state above I for the most part am sitll a child but with more responsibilities, commitments, and pressures. If only ADULTS could view themselves as children just with those few things added on into the mix the world would “BE AT PLAY” in an essence. I have a few more Ideas on how to go B2B so Matthew if you want to collaborate on something let me know.
I have watched lots and lots of Mathew Hussey, not onle the dating advice, but also the business which is even higher quality (is that possible?) What i liked about the interview is the format. Having Mathew answer questions rather than lecture brought a different side out and made the info more approachable. Might be a useful marketing angle.
haha. enjoyed this. very true about WHO you socialise with and that being youthful and sprightly has nothing to do with age – it’s about your attitude. It IS about how you have life and energy. Value yourself, know what you want and associate with people who FEED POSITIVE energy instead of draining it. ANOTHER very entertaining & informative chat – loved it. Thanks Matt!
Hi Matthew,
I’m 57 but look, dress (and probably behave) like I’m in my mid 40s. I’ve always looked young and it’s purely down to genes and probably never smoking in my life! Yes very lucky, I know!
I became single again 6 years ago and after a tough couple of years following a 32 year relationship, including 26 year marriage in which I was completely faithful, I’ve been dating mainly guys in their mid 40s because that’s who I attract. They say I’m a breath of fresh air, I’m emotionally sorted (now!) and have my future mapped out to lose my responsibilities and be adventurous. I’ve been beating myself up about the age of the fellas and so thank you for making it clearer why more mature but fun women are so attractive to them. I have a very positive attitude to life and love so I intend to keep being playful and ‘high-value’ cos I’m hoping one of them may soon realise how lucky he is that I chose him from the other contenders!
As my sis-in-law says, (also in her 50s) ‘you go girl’!!
Hi Matthew ;)
Thanks for sharing all these wonderful tips / knowledge with us. You can hear how much you enjoy helping others and that is so important to your followers …your sincerity!
I am in my late 30′s and have found a new confidence. Your information just helps build my “confidence blocks” A big thank you!
Let me know if you plan to come to the US…Las Vegas area!
Heyyy Matthew Hussey! First off, THANK YOU for all good information you always provide. I think if someone thinks age it’s important in a relashionship, okay, age is important, and this someone will experience that. When I was more younger I never felt attracted by guys more younger than me lol! Now I am 23 and of course I changed my paradigms some time ago. There are a million things more important than age, absolutely.
i can’t find anyone who look like you i mean like your thinking and mind
you are a very very good guy and so smart i wish that i was any where near you but i’m so far away
evry girl have a man of her dreams and i want you to know that you are the man of min the one i can’t have and can’t be with
so i wish to you all the happyness that i couldn’t get
i wish for you to find someone who will love you and know how great you are like i do
bye
Hey Matthew.
Really wish I lived in the UK so I could come to one of your seminars. Found your videos on YouTube and just had to sign up for your newsletter. Love your advice, though none of it was really all that new to me. Lol. I have grown up around guys my whole life, I’m 23, and all of them have been really good to me, as in giving me advice whenever they see I’m doing something wrong.
My problem has always been though, that I get along much better with guys than I ever really have girls. So I know how to get the guys girl friend, but I’ve never really been their girlfriend. I don’t know how to make that transition from being a guys friend to being more than a friend.
At the moment, there is no one in my life that I would consider as a candidate for a relationship, but I also don’t know how to act around a guy to show him that that is what I am interested in either.
Really wish you could help.
Crystal
I liked your sentence (young women are not necessary youthful). But I think it depends on what the other is looking for. Unfortunately I believe that there’s a thin line between being a best friend or a girlfriend because you might be seen as a good friend not as a partner! If you are always there, fun, understanding and honest. You may end up as one of the cool guys not as girly girl!!!
What do you think?
Ah! Thaaaank you, Matthew and Co! It sounds to me like vulnerability is a HUGE key! :) Without vulnerability, there is absolutely no way you can show confidence and/or playfulness.
Yay! … I can’t wait to practice. ;)
Hi Matthew,
I’m 30 and I’ve listen to your program which I truly found correct and also other your advices being practical.
I m not British but I try to say what I really think.
Personally,I’m witty even in seriouse situation but I’d like to know how we can keep youner guy who I know love me even I can’t speak like native girl to express myself.
Thanks a lot
Interesting talk. I really enjoyed it.
Does age matter? In my culture (eastern asia) age does matter. Men are ever looking for younger women. And it is considered best if a woman marries a man three years older than her.
I recently had a crush on a guy two years my junior, and I just could not bring myself to make my feelings known to him. I’m in my mid twenties, and I have this deep-rooted belief that men in their early twenties simply won’t appreciate or accept women older than them. I would be very happy if Matthew contradicts this impression of mine.
great Mathew your advice is usually timely …. can you organize a seminar for people living in Africa
Hi,
I really find what you are talking about very true. I have always felt that i was doing something wrong when guys are not answering and you make things work.
Thanks,
Samantha
Matthew when can you come to the USA and have live shows here ?
Hi
I am a cougar in Australia and I really like listening to your comments and your newsletters. You are very generous in your tips and I find your teachings very useful. I wish you came to australia because I would definitely attend your seminars. But there is one thing you can improve on which is to give advice on internet dating and not bash it.It is an area that is not going to go away. I know many people that have met their spouse through the net. I am very busy working lady I really am not into the pub scene and really what kind of partner are you going to seriously attract there, except for one night stands. I find that the internet you can meet likeminded people who are available mentally and physically. Whereas if you met someone at the cafe he might be tied up in a relationship.I have been there a year and yes very successful more than 1000 people has contacted me.
My problem is I cant find the one i want and I am not confident even if i found someone whether i could hold on to him long term.
But to all the older women, I have to let u know theres a lot of guys out there that loves older women
Matt,
I’ve following you since 3 months ago. I broke up with a boyfriend I had for 4 years and I lost my confidence. I just didn’t know how to get over and start again. I didn’t know how to start dating again and meet guys. The worst thing was that it was affecting other areas of my life such as work.
I signed up to your newsletter to receive emails from you and having you as a couch has been just wonderful. I am putting in practice your advices and I cannot believe how my life changed in every aspect of it such as work, family, friends and love. I haven’t found the guy yet (just started 2 weeks ago jajaja) but I am really having a fun time right now. I’m very happy.
Last weekend, I went on a date and while I was in the restaurant other 5 guys approached to me. This was never happened to me before. In the gym and at work, guys are approaching to me to chat. I just look at them and smile. I still need to improve my conversation skills jajajaja but I am amazed with the results. Girls, seriously you do not know the power of a smile…so keep smiling and make eye contact. ;)
Your ebook is fantastic and I hope going to Florida to one of your events. I love the way you coach, it helped me very much. Thank you and hope see you soon.
Take care,
Abril
Hey,
I really enjoyed what you said ! More precisely, the age of the guy or the girl… I have that annoying thought that a man older than me ( over 2 or 3 years ) will see me as a child and see my funny side as childishness. How can I change my mind about this? I have also a little problem : I’m 17 years old and I just met someone that I liked at an event. I didn’t talk to him, but I exchanged a look and i think he guessed that I had a crash on him. Now, I can’t stop thinking how I can meet him again, I just know his facebook but I don’t really like to talk with him in the net because I don’t really like the net conversation! I’m always afraid that it works more on the net than in real life !
Take care,
Asma
Matthew Hussey,
Wow your advice is just incredible and working wonders for me. Literally everything you say is spot on! Thank you so much and keep it coming :)