Insights from the male mind (Today Show feature)
Yesterday I was back on The Today Show. They are calling my segment “The Other View” – ha!
I wanted to post the video here on the blog as it has some important lessons. Hope you enjoy!
It looks like I might be doing a more regular slot so I’ll be able to bring you more of these as we go.
Here are the big takeaways from the show…
1) How to show someone they are appreciated (outside of the bedroom)
It’s the little things that count here.
Women get paid compliments a lot more than guys, and it’s easy to forget the impact that telling a guy he’s handsome can have.
When you get back from work, give him a huge hug and tell him how much you’ve missed him (note: this is NOT ‘needy’. Needy would be getting home and asking, ‘did you miss me?’.)
Make him feel like a man. Ask him to teach you something, be curious, back him up where appropriate around other people. Loyalty is key to a relationship!
2) How to get him to call or text more (without asking)
You have to tell someone what your formula is for feeling loved, as we all have different rules.
Kathie Lee had a great line, “don’t expect something if you’ve not made it known that it’s something that you need”.
While your standard might be to hear from him 4 times a week, his might be just once, and so you need to make him aware of what you expect and communicate your rules to him.
Doing so can be as simple as saying, “This is how I feel loved. I know it’s different to how you feel loved, but it’s important to me.”
3) I had a baby three months ago. I don’t feel sexy at all. How do I explain to him that I’m not there mentally?
Start by accepting that he’s still a man, and that he has the same needs and desires that he did before you ever got pregnant.
You have the ability to still feel attractive and turned on, even if it doesn’t feel as natural right now. Help him understand what he can do to make you feel that way. Remember the dynamic of the relationship hasn’t shifted and that he still wants to be the hero.
Question of the day: What does a guy have to do to make you feel loved? Let me know in the comments below!
To get more insight into men, check out my online home-study programme The Man Myth. In it you will learn the A–Z of what men think, how to generate unstoppable attraction, and how to win him to your way of thinking. Check it out here.