Where are they all hiding? I’m sure this is something you might have found yourself asking. Perhaps the biggest difference that I’ve found between coaching guys and coaching women in their love lives is that men never ask this question.
In fact I don’t think that I can recall ever being asked by a guy where to meet more women, yet the topic of meeting men and the best places to meet men is something that seems eternally fascinating to women, as many are never meeting their ideal man.
On our weekends, a topic that we cover in a lot of detail is the best places to meet guys. When we go through this, rather than just giving you the definitive list of places to go, we encourage you to think of your own by asking this one very important question… (more…)
Do women really fear rejection from guys? This was something I really had to consider when I was being forced by a few female friends to do my very first seminar for women on their love lives.
Thinking back to those first few seminars I ever ran for Get The Guy, I remember this being one of the topics that was at the forefront of my mind and I just couldn’t stop thinking about it.
Do women really fear rejection from men as much as men fear rejection from women?
Ask any woman this and she won’t believe it’s even a question. Ask any man this and he won’t be able to fathom how much harder it is for men to approach women. But one of the things that both sexes are equally quick to forget is each others vulnerability. (more…)
Men are terrible at picking up on signs of attraction. Absolutely awful in fact. When trying to attract a guy you can cackle like a witch at all his jokes, give him unrelenting eye contact at the dinner table and even stroke his arm when you talk to him and he’ll still be none the wiser!
So why would you want to be subtle?
More often than not, whilst men may not be the most astute of creatures when a girl is interested in them, nine times out of ten they will pick up on the signals that are directed towards their friends, and inevitably this information arrives at it’s intended
destination.
A big factor in men being so oblivious to your interest is self-doubt. They repress any attraction signals from you and come up with other explanations as to why it’s happening. So if you want to attract a guy while keeping him on tenterhooks, you’ve got to see the obvious signs of attraction from men or at least enough to get him questioning what you’re saying, but you also want to make sure you’re keeping those around him in the dark. (more…)
That’s right, occasionally I get asked by women, “My friend won’t let me meet her guy. What’s going on?” Granted this is one of the questions that I get asked less frequently, yet it’s still not all too uncommon.
However women are usually so willing to let their friends and family meet their boyfriends; often almost seeming as if the only reason they’re with their guy is to brag about him to their friends, so when I first heard this question I was rather taken back.
From one of my more recent articles about “players” you will have learned that when a guy is reluctant to let a woman into his life, it is often a sign that he is planning on getting in and getting out as quickly as humanly possible – and so should be avoided.
However we never really come to this same conclusion when it’s a girl who is reluctant to let any of her friends meet a guy – and you’d be right in thinking so, especially when he’s a boyfriend as it’s likely to be for completely different reason altogether. (more…)
So you think you’ve found the guy! The one, the catch, the kind of guy you have always dreamed of dating and eventually commit to. So what next? How can you tell if he is a catch, does he match all of your personalty requirements? Let’s see how you can tell:
The Catch…
Main Entry: catch
Function: noun
Etymology: The noun is attested from late 14c.; meaning “that which is caught or worth catching” (especially of spouses) is from 1590s.
1: a person regarded as a good matrimonial prospect
2: match (more…)
Here’s an interesting one, the introvert. Everyone knows one and wants them to do better in life or in relationships, because it seems they are just a little too scared to push the boundaries. So what do you do if you date one? How can you get them out of their shell and be a bit more adventurous? Here’s how:
The Introvert…
Main Entry: introverted
Function: adjective
Etymology: from Latin intro- ”inward” + vertere ”to turn”
Date: 1781
1: introspective
2: reticent
3: withdrawn (more…)
Have you ever dated a player before? Well we say dated but it’s really just a fling as it was doomed from the beginning. But does it always have to be like this? Or can you change a player, stop him from chasing after the next woman and settle with you? Let’s find out:
The Player…
Main Entry: player
Function: noun
Etymology: possibly derived from the phrases “play him for a fool”, or “play him like a violin”. The term was popularized by the hip-hop culture, but was commonly recognized among urban American blacks in the 1970s.
1: A guy who is sustaining supposedly exclusive relationships with multiple girls simultaneously
2: A male who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. (more…)
Clingy guys are possibly the worst types of guys to date, they hang on every word you say, come out with the most ridiculous statements and never seem to be fully independent, they somehow rely on you all the time. So can you change them or spot them a mile off? Yes, here’s how:
The Maudlin…
Main Entry: Maudlin
Function: adjective
Etymology: originally surname of Mary, the repentant sinner. In paintings, she was often shown weeping as a sign of repentance. Meaning “characterized by tearful sentimentality” is recorded by 1630s.
Date: early 14c
1: overly sentimental or affectionate
2: overemotional
3: “soppy” (more…)
After talking to many women about the different types of men they meet, usually the wrong types! We decided to put together a 5 part series on which male personality types you may have already dated or are currently dating and what you can do to slowly change him for the better.
The Skinflint…
Main Entry: skinflint
Function: noun
Etymology: Flint stones were used in olden times to start a fire. The term skinflint derives from the idea that a miserly person would go to the extreme and “skin a flint” or use a flint till it’s as thin as skin
Date: Circa 1700
1: one who is very reluctant to spend money
2: scrooge
3: pinchgut (more…)
Everywhere seems more romantic at christmas. A combination of the lights,the music and the cold weather (meaning its necessary to cuddle closer to your date), makes christmas a great time of year for first, tenth or fiftieth dates!
Christmas is one of the best times of the year to go on dates, people feel lonelier - it’s cold, the same old films are on the telly and it’s just lovely to be with someone you care about, so make the effort to have a cracking christmas date with your guy.
Here are our top ten romantic dates to go on with you guy whatever stage in your relationship that are fun, interesting and create that spark that every relationship needs, even if they do feel a little cheesy just go with it! (more…)
“All this information has given me so much more confidence”