How To Tell If A Guy Likes You Instantly – Proven Techniques
In this video, Matt shows you how to tell if a guy likes you instantly without second guessing anything. If you’ve ever wondered why a guy keeps looking at you, moves closer to you or acts a little strange around you, chance are he likes you!
When you know a guy likes you, things can become a little more interesting – the flirting begins and attraction builds, if you like him of course but there are several signs of attraction from men to watch out for, here are the top 4:
1. Proximity
Do you find him moving towards you in social gatherings? If he comes closer every time you look back at him, this is a natural tendency for guys who are attracted to you. This has been proven to be an unconscious movement, so they don’t even know they are doing it!
2. In conversation
When you are talking to a guy does he offer up any kind of information that you didn’t ask for? If he starts talking about his job, or his car or even his hobbies then it’s a sign he’s trying to impress you. Try not to get bored of hearing the same old lines, just feel flattered that they are trying to get you to like them.
3. Re-initiate
If you let the conversation slowly die down, does he re-initiate verbally or physically? If he does then these are signs a guy likes you, so don’t make him sweat – help him out with a little more conversational flow.
4. Touch
Is this guy looking for reasons to touch you? This is the biggest give away that he likes you, so don’t be afraid to touch him back this is a great way to escalate attraction and show him you are interested as well.
So there you have it… simple steps to follow and look for that will let you know if a guy likes you and is in fact interested in you when you are next in conversation.
Hey Matt,
Love the video, thanks for the tips. I have a question though. There is a guy in my office that I find really cute and notice him doing most of what you’ve said actually.
He flirts with me all the time, even when we are drinking at a bar on Fridays after work. But he’s just not making the first move, I can’t bring myself to ask him out though. I’m not even sure if he has a girlfriend, but would he flirt so much even if he did? Very confusing, please help!
Hi Sarah!
Thanks for the comments!
With regards to the guy you mention, firstly you don’t want to get hung up on worrying over whether or not he has a girlfriend. If he hasn’t mentioned it already, then it’s very likely he doesn’t have one. And since he works in your office it’s bound to slip out eventually if he does!
In terms of asking him out, you need to ask him somewhere casual, not like dinner, which has a very “datey” vibe about it. Just ask him along on something relaxed in the day time and see how you both get on together. That way, you don’t have to worry about the fear of rejection, because you haven’t really asked him on a “proper date”.
If he likes you but can’t make it, he’ll definitely try to re-schedule for another time!
Hope this helps!
Matt
Matt, I need some advice. I’m currently seeing a guy and it’s been around 2 months, going well and he’s a lot of fun but when I introduce him to my friends if we are out or something he flirts outrageously and it really makes me really jealous. I just can’t help feeling like that.
What is he trying to do? Maybe it’s just his personality but I’m still getting to know him so not entirely sure. I wish he wouldn’t because my friends have brought it up too.
Thanks!
Hey Amy,
You should never have to tolerate behaviour that breaks your boundaries of what’s acceptable.
When it comes to him flirting, first of all, even if you’re jealous it’s important you don’t give him loads of attention because of it. If you get angry at him, he will stars to realise that flirting with other women is a way of getting you to take notice, which will make him keep doing it.
What you MUST do is be straight and honest that he is breaking acceptable behaviour (some men might not have a clue how it makes you feel). Then tell him: “It really turns me off when you act like that”. We men HATE hearing that something turns you off. Say all this calmly and firmly, but without sounding like you’re stroppy or overly emotional about it.
If he doesn’t change his behaviour after this, you have to question why he isn’t bothered how you feel. He might be a “player” (my free newsletter has more on this!)
Take care!
Matt
Hi Matt, I need advice. There’s this guy who has asked me out a couple of times and he says things like ‘you’re beautiful’ or ‘you make me happy’. He flirts and gives me presents, but he doesn’t touch me, I mean not even in the shoulder, when saying goodby he shake hands,once I asked him for a hug and he did, but he doesn’t try to be more physical, even when I’m making it easy for him. What’s happening here?
Hey matt, there is this guy who I think likes me and I like him. He always smiles at me during class and watches and smiles when I’m talking to someone else. We talk so easily to eachother. But he used to like this girl for 3 years, but doesn’t like her anymore, but when he is around her and I’m there he kinda flirts with her. He always tells me he doesn’t like her, but he hasn’t made a move other than flirt and sometimes touch. I don’t understand what he is feeling! Help!!