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What Men Want In A Woman… REALLY Want!

Here’s how to understand what men want in a woman, without feeling confused or lost!

Men don’t want a challenge, but they do want to be challenged!

Let me explain this.

Actively trying to make yourself a challenge will only leave a guy interested in the chase. And when women make guys obsessed with the chase, the guy loses interest in the woman he’s chasing soon after he’s “caught” her

Alternatively, being a challenging woman implies a sense of continuity, rather than becoming a single challenge which once completed becomes boring.

So how do you be a challenging woman?

Answer: What men really want is a woman with her own life.

What a man wants is to know that he is being fitted into your weekly planner, rather than you giving up everything and going to set up camp in his!

I can’t stress this enough, in men’s minds it is unattractive if after only a brief time with him you give up the rest of your life (friends, family, hobbies) and replace them with him.

But take note – this is absolutely NOT the same as the old idea of “playing hard-to-get”.

Why hard-to-get doesn’t work…

Playing hard to get is only an illusion of independence, which will quickly vanish after the ‘chase’ is over.

Hard-to-get only teaches you to pretend to be an independent, interesting and confident woman, instead of truly being one.

Looks aren’t enough!

A common misconception from women about what men really want is looks. As I said before, guys reserve their deepest level of respect and attraction for those women who are independent and confident in their own life, with or without a man. Remember, when a guy is attracted solely by looks, he has then formed in his mind a singular challenge.

If anything happens it will have been on the basis of physical attraction solely, and therefore the guy will have completed the challenge of getting the woman, who he is only physically attracted to, rendering the woman much less worthy of attention.

Perhaps this is why many men may have one-off flings with much younger girls, but the same men have a much deeper sense of desire and attraction for more mature women; often significantly older than them, with whom they often enter into more meaningful and passionate relationships founded on their attraction to the woman’s independent and challenging nature.

Remember, confidence and independence is sexy, people-pleasing, being needy and fake isn’t. True confidence and independence will keep you sexy for a long time to come, but it needs to come from within. The power to be what men want is, and always has been, within your grasp.

Are you ready to have the love life you want? And understand what men want once and for all?

Ok so we know the basics now and can get a feel for what men want, but let me ask you a question… what do men really want in a woman? What is it that makes them feel deep attraction towards you, call you, stay committed to you? These are just some of the topics that I cover in-depth on my newsletter which is FREE. So if you’re ready to take your dating and relationships to the next level, I urge you to sign up today and you can be reading the first newsletter within 2 minutes from now, so go!

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  1. Sage says:

    Been married – currently a commitment phobic. Not sure how practical is for me as an American in Florida. Agree with the standards and am working on my stuff. Really busy with my life right now though I’d like to attend one of your seminar. Agree with some of your stuff and some of it makes me wonder. Anyway, thanks.

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  4. George Miller says:

    My wife has accused me of a lot of things in our years of marriage some of those accusation were true and i admitted to doing them but am to much in love with her to give her an s.t.d. She was down to end our marriage cos she believed i gave an s.t.d. She had a good reason to believe that cos of late i haven’t been the best husband. Thank God that s@@t was clarified in the Trisha show that i was not responsible for the s.t.d. She was in love with me as i was in love with her. Yes i will admit to the fact that i f$$ked up so many times but we always got around our problem i don’t mean avoid it i mean we fixed our problem like real adults but my stepson always thought i was not good enough for his mother. We never really got along. I never hated him, but he just didn’t like me and i wasn’t gonna suck up to him.He just wanted me out of their life and our problem just made it possible for him to see that happen cos he also accused me of giving my wife, his mother s.t.d. I agreed to do the Trisha show thinking maybe it will help fix our marriage but it made it even worse. After the show she was more down to leave me. She asked that i move out of the house filed for a divorce and all. I thought she will come to her sense and see that though she had s.t.d i still wanted to be with her. I thought if i should give her time the anger and bitterness will die but it didn’t even after a whole month after everything.She had the divorce papers delivered to me. I could not let her go just like that.I got desperate and i started panicking so i used a spell to get her back i know most people don’t believe and you may call me crazy but it worked for me. I found a comment on the Internet about this spell caster Metodo Ell. The comment said he doesn’t do spell for those who are not meant to be together. I mean i believe with all my heart that she is the one thing i needed in my life and i also know she needs me too so i thought he could help me get her back.He agreed to help me cos he also said we are soul mate.All i needed for the spell were materials to get the spell done. I could not get them so i paid him to get them for me since he is the expert in this stuff.After three days, he sent me a substance with instructions on how to make the spell effective and i did as he directed but honestly it took seven days to work i guess good things don’t work like zap. As far as i can tell that s$$t worked cos all my marriage problem just fell off my shoulder AFTER THE SPELL WAS CAST.My wife didn’t go through with the divorce and stepson is cool with me now. If you want to get him to cast a spell for you contact him here with this email address metodoacamufortress@yahoo. com he could also do a direct spell maybe it meant cost a little more than mine i don’t know him only can tell you that.

  5. Hno says:

    Can I know why men stop talking to me after seeing my pic? It happens to me twice

  6. ca says:

    As bizarre as using a spell to get close to the one you care about my sound to you all,its something you think of when you run out of option of what to do.And as a fact that i know, most of us are will to go to the extreme to get the person they care about close to them.Well in my case i fell in love with my neighbor wife.She was one hot woman with long legs nice ass and every thing a man dreams about a woman.Its was sad cos she was in a loveless marriage.Herself and her husband were like two strangers in the same house.The entire neighborhood notice that the never kiss or even hold hand or walk side by side with each other that kept everyone asking if there were really married.As at then i didn’t if i felt passion or lust or love all that was in my head was to make love to her all day.I couldn’t stop thinking about her.Yeah we starting seeing each other, going out on romantic dates, of course no one knew about us and soon it became a love affair.I knew it was hell wrong but she made me tremble just by thinking about her.Then i could link love passion lust as one.We never really talked much it was mostly passionate sex when we were together.I was sure i loved her that i could give my life for her.I just thought i should let her know i love her with my life so i dropped the “L” word.It was like i dropped an atomic bomb on her i could tell.She loved as much as i did but she was scared of love and her husband how she was gonna tell him i have been sleeping with our neighbor Hagee .I knew they were like stranger living in the same house so i just wanted to be with her for ever you know make are her and make her feel the burning desire i feel for her i wanted her to live her husband but she was not ready to it.It stayed that way for eighteen months i got so tried to asking as convincing her i got so desperate that i contact a spell caster MUTTON OSUN i discover online.There are lots of positive comment about him how he has helped a lot of desperate people like me.I he assured me that she was in love with me but was sacred he told me that doing the spell will not take her free will but fill her heart with overwhelming love for me.He said the spell bring this overwhelming love to the surface of her heart and then she will be willing to give anything up for our love.I needed some material for the spell which he asked me to get.I could get them but could not find any where to send them down to him.I had to send down the money to him to help me get them where he was.It 800 dollars maybe other people materials will be less expensive it all varies but my was not a waste of money cos the spell worked but it took 7 days to be effective and all that.In the she left her loveless husband and since then we have been together it been a year now.if you may want to contact him use this email address godsofosunx@rocketmail. com

  7. Cherry Chao says:

    Are law students really “undate-able”? Because when men learn that I am a law student they just go away.

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  9. me says:

    This is the story of my life that i am still pondering upon even as i write this article, if to tell the world.I have been asking myself if i should let the world know about this or maybe i should just keep it to myself cos most people might think am crazy.All the same am telling my story.I live in Bordeaux, France with my husband and four kids and we have a happy family.It wasn’t always just like that.Before my husband, i have been married to five different men.Yeah five, all five marriages failed after six months not cos we had problems or the relationships was on the rock they just come and go without good reason.It was the worst time of my live.I had a feeling there was something about me that wasn’t just appealing in the site of all the men that claimed to love to death.The entire puzzle of my life just seem to fall into place when i met my present husband i fall hard in love with him like he also did.It was all in his eye that he loved me with all he’s got.Yeah we got married but just after the first six months as always he just wanted out as every other man that i was married to.I never really wanted to let go of any of my ex husband i was willing to fight for it marriage but they bluntly weren’t ready for that.But this, i just got tired of same old same old thing just wanted a steady marriage with the love of my life.I tried marriage counseling with him which is suppose to me the best way to resolving marital problem but he was like its been tattooed in his mind that he wanted out of our marriage.I Honestly don’t know how and when i contacted a spell caster to help me.His name was Mutton i think he was of great help cos i honest remember that i think he helped me save my marriage.I say i think cos its being one year and six months exactly since he cast a spell to make my husband stay till dead do us part and my husband is still with me now and we are happy and in love just like how we were for the first six months.I will be fully convinced if we get to celebrity our 50th year anniversary.I don’t want any body to see this article like it was meant to make you contact him.I am just sharing my experience on how Mutton helped me restore my marriage with spell casting and i should tell you he does not charge for his services all you are to do is to provide materials he will be needing for the spell casting.If you feel he can help you solve any of your problem contact him here godsofosunx@rocketmail. com this was what i used to contact him good luck.

  10. cornellia says:

    i want to thank Dr ALuta for bringing back my ex husband, we broke up for more than 4 month and he told me that he never want to see me in his life again. i love him so much to the extend that i could not do any thing again, i was confused and depress due to the love i had for him.i did everything i could do to have him come back to me but all went in vain. so i decided to contact a spell caster, i did not believe in spell casting i just want to try it may be it would work out for me. i contacted dr Aluta for help, he told me that he have to cast a love spell on him, i told him to it. after 5 days my called me and started to apologize for leaving me and also he told me that he still love me. i was very happy and i thank dr aluta for helping get back my ex husband back to my hands. his spell is the the greatest all over the world, it was the love spell he cast on my ex that make him come back to me. all you ladies who want back the ex husband back i want you to contact Dr Aluta at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct at traditionalspellhospital (@)gmail.com and get your problems solve

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  12. gge says:

    a guy texted me asking out.
    I said that if he come in 10 minutes I will go out with him. I thought that this would have been challenging and interesting.
    He did not come and did not text me again.

  13. Tina says:

    Apart from physical beauty, men want a woman to cook, have sex on demand and not have an opinion.

  14. David says:

    Please women note that this information suggests the thought process of a very specific man, the type of man that consciously sees you as a conquest. Do you really want to understand a man like that so you can seek him out.

    Some of this stuff is somewhat correct as a generalisation to all men, but i think it looks at our thought process as being a female with different goals. I can only speak for myself, but i’d say there are many men that would agree with me. I don’t seek a woman in which i can identify and independent or challenging nature, it’s so not about the traits themselves, it’s the effects seen in you personality that matter. I guy doesn’t want an independent girl because we can tick that box, we look for a girl that doesn’t cling to us all the time and expect us to do the same. So the source of a behavioural characteristic is less important, the characteristic itself is what is important and what occurs to us.

    One of the most important misconceptions i’ve seen women have about men is that we function the same as a woman in a mental sense. Men don’t think, we feel. Now that might sound contradictory to the stereotypical stoic male persona, but what i mean is that we don’t usually have conscious thought guiding us, it’s much more readily, conscious sensations. An example of the top of my head being, we don’t think something like “hmm, i feel hungry, i guess i’ll go get something for lunch”, we just get the singular feeling telling us “hungry”(not even as a word, just sensation) so we respond to that feeling and go find food. That manner of thinking applies to many of our thought processes about things we experience in life. So really, we don’t interact with a girl and think “okay because she’s doing that she feels this way and she’s thinking this and she’s that type of girl”, no, we just think “i like when she does that” or “i don’t like when she does that”. Guys are basically just really simple straight forward in our seeking a compatible mate, each aspect of you we either like it or we don’t or it’s just “meh” and doesn’t really matter either way to us. Anyway i could talk about this kind of stuff for hours, but i’ve ranted for plenty now, so i’ll stop, and again everything i’ve said i believe to apply to almost all men, but i can only truely confirm it for myself.

  15. Chris Collins says:

    Here is another article about what men really want but doesn’t really say the real truth about it. I mean no offense to the writer but I am kind of wondering if this was written by a man. Sometimes there’s just too much generalization and wrong conclusions made about us men and it’s sad.

  16. Samuel says:

    As a man. After reading this I got a question. Was this written by a woman? Or is this geared to one type man? I will give a little insight to a man. No matter what year it is. How much time has pasted. A man is still a man. Look research what roll nature placed a man in. Test it with your next man an see how much he is drawn to you. Think of the story of the scorpion an the frog. Its so true. No matter how much knowledge we have or how much we try to change. From the second we was born nature play’s a large roll in our subconscious mind. And in yours.

  17. Elizabeth Cole says:

    You really give a clear male perspective women can relate to. Refreshing. I’ll remember these tips! Thank you.

  18. hithere says:

    So well written! You broke down the mystery all women struggle with understanding into something so clear and straight forward. Nice. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this.

  19. Sara Meyer says:

    Wow! Thank you!!!! This just totally changed the way I think about men:)

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      i got married 4months ago. My
      husband and I have been
      living a very happy and lovely
      life. So as time went on, I
      began to notice this strange
      attitude that he was
      possessing. He was now going
      out with other girls, to the
      extent that he was no longer
      picking up my calls, and he
      was not even sleeping in my
      house anymore. I became
      confused and didn’t know what
      to do anymore. So i
      became worried and stranded,
      that brought so many
      thoughts into my mind, because I
      have never experienced
      a thing like this before in my life.
      So I decided to visit a spell
      caster, to see if he can help
      me out. So immediately I went
      to the internet, where I
      saw an amazing testimony of a
      spell caster who brought
      someone’s ex lover back,so I
      contacted him immediately
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      problems and he told me
      that it will be very easy for him
      to solve, compare to the
      ones he has done before. And he
      also gave me some
      proof to be really sure of her
      work, and he assured me
      that my husband will come back
      to me immediately after
      he is through with the spell
      casting. And also he told me
      to put all my trust in him and I
      really obeyed him.
      So it was 8:00 am on the next
      morning, when I was about
      going to work, when i received
      my husband’s call, and he
      told me that he was coming back
      home, and he apologized
      to me, and told me that he is
      very sorry for the pain that
      he has cost me. And after some
      hours later, he really came
      back home, and that was how we
      continued our marriage
      with lots of love and happiness,
      and our love was now
      stronger than how it were
      And these great man also told
      me that once my heart
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      So my greatest advice for you
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