Why You REALLY Need to Stop Caring What Other People Think

When I first started coaching at 18 years old, people had a LOT to say about why a kid like me thought he could tell people anything about dating. Over TEN years on and after reaching millions of people around the world, people STILL throw out their criticisms.

I had a viral video hit this week (over 16 million views in three days!), and sure enough, many of my new followers said: “Who the hell is this Matthew Hussey and why should I listen to what this young guy has to say??”

Comments like that used to worry me. These days, I smile and say: “Ah, this again.”

But if you’re STILL living in fear of the opinions of others, this is the video is for you…

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Think About THIS Next Time You Text A Guy For Hours

Stephen Hussey

As I’ve said before on this blog, I’m not a big texter (although I’ve tried to get better).

For me, too many texts back-and-forth all day, especially in dating, tends to turn things kind of bland.

I don’t know how to explain why exactly. Maybe it kills all the mystery. Maybe it’s just distracting to keep checking my phone all day. Or maybe it’s because I have a belief that texting should be fun, quick messages that “spark joy” (to use a term by Marie Kondo), instead of them being a substitute for real-life conversations you could be having in person.


I know this isn’t a popular opinion.

Most people keep in touch constantly on Facebook chat, or Instagram, or Whatsapp, tapping away and keeping multiple conversations going while they go about their day. And that’s fine. I’m not saying my “short and sweet” policy of texting should be adopted by everyone.

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2 Secrets That Get Him to Commit to You

“OMG I went on a date with the most amazing guy!”

Your girlfriends get excited. He’s handsome, he’s tall, he has a master’s degree, and he runs his own successful company.

When we realize we REALLY like someone, it can be the scariest and most dangerous moment in our relationship. We rush ahead of ourselves. We commit our time, our emotions, our energy – and that’s before we know if it’s really going somewhere!

In this video, I’m going to give you the 100% TRUTH about why so many women jump the gun in the early dating stage and give you two important secrets that you must remember if you truly want a guy to commit.

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The BRUTALLY Honest Truth About What Makes A Successful Relationship

Stephen Hussey

Ever been in a relationship with a guy who is amazing when he’s at his very best, but who too often falls into argumentative, moody, and negative behaviours?

It’s so frustrating. You know he has the potential to be a loving, wonderful, PERFECT boyfriend for you, but he just don’t show it often enough.

Instead, you find that MORE of your time is spent in dealing with arguments and problems, and you both live for those all-too-rare joyful moments when everything clicks and the relationship works.


Women with these kinds of partners get stuck in “Eternal Hope” mode. They live for what they think a man could be, rather than choosing to see him as he really is, warts and all.

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2 Ways to Instantly Feel More Confident in Your Body

“Eww…look at that stomach.”

“I hate my chubby legs.”

“I wish I had better skin.”

This is how we talk to ourselves every single day.

In this week’s blog video, I share a story about my own moment of body insecurity, and give you 2 ways to INSTANTLY improve your body image so that you can walk through the world with confidence again.

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Bad Dates

Stephen Hussey

Need I say more?

You dress up, do fifty sit-ups in your bedroom, get hopeful, walk out the door, and realise within ten minutes you’re out with the wrong person.

It’s ok. You chose wrong.

You took a chance. But he had wonky teeth you didn’t really like. Or he laughed loudly at all his own jokes and it was a complete turn-off.

But hey, at least you got a free meal out of it (at least I hope you did, because I definitely didn’t).



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Who Pays on a First Date? (LIVE Clip from My Seminar)

You’re on a first date with a guy.

You just finished your drinks and the waiter hands you the check.

He’s about to pay. Should you offer to cover your half of the bill? Or just smile and say thank you when the guy puts his credit card on the table?

I’m not going to lie, in this week’s blog video, I get PRETTY controversial. But I think this REALLY matters, so I hope you’ll keep an open mind when you watch this.

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How to Make a Man Want You for MORE Than One Night

If you want to understand how to make a man want you, then read this quick story right now…

Tom was getting freaked out.

He had only met Amanda a week ago. Now they were in his bed making out, taking each other’s clothes off. But that wasn’t the part that freaked him out. That was the good part.

What was more strange was what Amanda was saying to him. At various points in between kissing she kept asking, “Are you going to see me again after this?”

Needless to say, it totally pulled him out of the moment. He wasn’t sure what to respond, mostly because it had only been one or two dates. He didn’t really know her well enough to say what was going to happen.

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He “Ghosted” You? 3 Tips to Feel Better Fast

If I had to guess, over 7928753 women have now asked me what to do when a guy ghosts you.

Ghosting is when a guy you’ve been dating suddenly disappears: no messages, no phone calls, no tearful goodbye – just gone forever, never to be seen or heard from again.

Sounds brutal? It is.

In this week’s blog video, for the first time, I’m going to tell you my essential rules for responding to a guy if and WHEN you get ghosted (though here’s hoping you never do).

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How To Get A Guy’s Phone Number In LESS Than 3 Minutes

Stephen Hussey

On Saturday night I did something I’ve never done before…I went to read a book, in a bar, alone. 

I’ve read alone in coffee shops, but never a bar.

I had been out partying the night before, so wanted to keep things low-key. I went to see a movie, and then stopped by the fashionable gastro pub about thirty seconds from my flat.

I ordered a glass of wine, sat down at one of the wooden tables with a burning candle stuck in an old gin bottle, and opened my Italian novel to read in the cozy lighting…alone. It was as pretentious as it sounds. The only way I could have looked more pompous would be if I were smoking a pipe and wearing a turtleneck (I was in a sweater, if you must know).

And then…


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