You sit picking daffodils, tearing away each petal and repeating the words, “he loves me…he loves me not…he loves me”.
Except now you’re not eight years old. You’re a grown adult in a relationship and still wondering when he’s going to express how he really feels.
It’s the “I love you” moment that comes in every relationship. He calls you his girlfriend. You spend all your time together. You’re always thinking about each other and you constantly can’t wait to tear one another’s clothes off. You’ve met each other’s families. It’s clear this is for real.
It’s time to put an end to the stigma… What stigma? I’m talking about “work-shaming”.
These days, the world is always trying to tell us that we’re just not productive enough, that we lack work ethic, or that we need to take our career ever more seriously.
But has this gone way too far?
In this week’s LOVELife, I decide it’s time to stand up to this message and decide to put an end to the cycle of misery and anxiety caused by the “work-shaming” advocates. Watch this video, and take on the freedom that comes from setting your OWN expectations, instead of everyone else’s.
I’ve been trying out one of those teeth-whitening courses for the last month, one of the unfortunate side effects of which is that I have a “no-go list” of food and drink that aren’t allowed to pass my lips during this period.
The rules include:
No red wine
No “colorful” foods
By far the hardest of these has been ridding myself of coffee and tea.
Although I’m not one of those people who find themselves unable to function in the morning without their daily caffeine intake, I am preposterously dependent on hot drinks for a warm pick-me-up-feel-good sort of pleasure.
It’s not a necessity. I just really like coffee and tea.
Chugging from a cappuccino or clutching a freshly brewed mug of tea is one of my small pleasures that gives the day colour and shape. I drink several coffees a day, a tea before breakfast, and often make a trip out to some local shop to get a latte just to break up long bouts of working at my desk all day.
Yet, when you’re actually forced to quit something you’ve come to rely on, you immediately notice just how much a part of your life it is.
It’s a bit too dirty and inappropriate considering you haven’t known him very long. Maybe you could ignore it. Or you could get mad. You think of the best way to write down your thoughts in a text message. But you never seem to get the right tone. You want to tell him it’s not cool, but you don’t want to seem too bothered by it.
Basically, you just want to tell him to slooww down.
Check out this ONE ridiculously simple but powerful textto deal with the situation.
Once you send him this, he’ll not only stop what he’s doing but he’ll want to be more of the kind of man who pleases you and be begging to be back in your good books. Keep watching all the way through, because at the end of the video, I’m going to show you even more of my favourite texting secrets that seduce and attract men every single time. Think of this as a very early Christmas present you can use whenever you need to know what to do next to keep him hooked.
I get SO many questions from women in their 40’s and 50’s who ask me whether my advice would work for them.
And I always wonder: why not?
Of course I understand that ageing is an anxiety that all of us secretly face and worry about, especially when it comes to dating. But does that really mean that the same rules no longer apply once we hit 40?
What is it about turning 40 that makes life so different? Is it that a 40 year-old wouldn’t flirt and go on dates? Is it that you can’t find good men once you’re 40? Is it that 40 year-olds live in some alternate universe where the rules that apply to 20 and 30-year olds no longer work?
Maybe I’m being dumb and naiive here, but I don’t believe any of those things. But I’d like to hear from you women on this issue.
If you have an opinion, ANY opinion at all about dating in your 40’s and beyond, please make sure you watch this episode of LOVELife and share your thoughts in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you.
I think the root source of so much unhappiness in the world stems from us buying into value systems we don’t need to.
Whether the relentless pursuit of money, good looks, fame, the need fufil whatever values your parents hold, or getting caught up in acquiring the respect of a crowd who aren’t worth the time or energy to impress in the first place.
These pursuits can become our entire lives if we allow them to. We work and work and wonder why we still feel miserable even when we’re achieving our goals. This is usually because we are moving forward on the wrong things.
Here are three steps to getting out of this self-imposed misery:
1) Seek your own mentors
Find people whom you admire, but also those who share values that matter to you. Look at examples of people who have been successful or happy doing what matters to you.
Important Note: While I do believe – and have seen proof – that the advice and programs I provide can help you improve your love life , please understand that not everyone will experience the exact same results. To get the best results, you must use the advice I give you. Every person is an individual and every situation is unique so no single piece of advice will work for everyone at every time.
But I can tell you that if you read the advice and continually apply it in your life, your chances of success increase dramatically.
And I’m here to help you every step of the way. Let’s get started!