I Don’t Feel That “Spark”, Should I Go On Another Date With Him?

You’ve been on two or three dates with a guy.

On paper, he seems great. Well-educated, kind, good career, knows how to dress himself.

But you just don’t get those butterflies when you think about him. You don’t feel that tingle of passion you’ve felt with other guys you liked in the past.

Should you give him another try? Or lose him now and move on so that you don’t waste anymore time?

In this week’s episode of LOVELife, my brother Stephen and I talk to a caller who is struggling with this dilemma of choosing between CHEMISTRY or COMPATIBILITY, and determine whether it’s smart to go after one at the expense of the other.

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Does everyone take dating WAY too personally?

Stephen Hussey

I was surprised this week at some of the reactions to Matt’s latest video blog.

In case you missed it, the video was about some of the fun, high-value messages you can send back to a guy when he texts you out-the-blue after “going cold” for a few weeks.

Although many of the comments were overwhelmingly positive (as proven by the like/dislike ratio on the YouTube video), I also noticed that some of the most popular comments were the angry ones, which said something like the following:

“I would NEVER message a guy back after he did any of these to me. I would just tell him to F**K off and stop playing mind games. Matthew, why are you telling people to be playful with these guys who are obviously PRICKS that just want to mess women around. Not impressed with this advice!”

That’s not an exact quote, but it’s the general summary. I wasn’t completely surprised that some people had that response. I can see why this topic would provoke so much anger.

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How to Text Guys – 4 Messages He’ll Love

He sends you a text message. It says “miss you”.

Ugh, really?

You thought he had disappeared, gone cold.

Is he going to just win you back so easily? You’re in a real dilemma about what to say next. (If you want to make sure you handle this EXACTLY right, this video explains the exact words that will now get him more attracted). You ask yourself: What if there was just ONE PERFECT text that you could deploy right now that would communicate how awesome you are without seeming needy or aggressive?

Well, good news. I’m about to reveal what golden texts you can send to make sure you’re equipped for all different kinds of scenarios…

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What Gets Men Hooked Sexually On One Woman

Every magazine tells you how to have great sex, how to spice up your marriage, and what positions to try when you’re bored.

But what really gets men hooked sexually on one woman isn’t some secret sex position…

It’s when he feels comfortable being able to express all of his dirty thoughts WITHOUT being judged.

When we’re with someone long enough, we become used to them. They become our best friend. That’s when it becomes scary to reveal a new, kinky, sexual desire with the person we love.

In this week’s episode of LOVELife, we talk about how to get out of this feeling of being “trapped” sexually, so that both men and women can create an environment where they truly become one another’s sexual fantasy (as well as loving partner)!

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What I Learnt About Blogging, Love, And Creativity After Writing 100 Posts About Dating

Stephen Hussey

Last week it finally happened. I didn’t even realise it, but a moment I had anticipated for two years came to pass.

I typed my name into the search box at the right hand side of this page. Once I pressed the final key on the words “Stephen Hussey”, I tapped enter and the page began to load. Then the results appeared and said it clearly: “100 articles found”.

I gasped…

I had done it.

After two years of sitting down at my desk each week to pull ideas out of my brain, I finally hit publish on the 100th article I’ve written since I began posting on this site!

All I could do was stare blankly at my laptop and mouth the words “Holy crap”.

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He’s Not Ready for a Relationship? Say THIS to Him…

“I’m just not ready to be exclusive with anyone…”

There’s no good way to hear that sentence from a guy’s mouth. Maybe he’s focusing on his career. Maybe he’s travelling the world this year and won’t have time for a relationship. Or maybe…potentially…it’s just his BS excuse because he wants to play the field and enjoy the sexual delights of the bachelor lifestyle.

All that matters is this…what does it mean for you?

I’ve seen so many women handle this conversation in TERRIBLE ways. They get upset, angry, emotional – giving up months and months trying to win him over and convince him to be in a relationship. I know this sucks, but I’m going to show you EXACTLY what to say in your response to a guy in this moment so that you feel empowered, confident, and in control of your romantic destiny again. Remember, it’s not what other people do that defines the quality of our love life, but how we respond to what other people do.

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How To Get A Guy To Kiss You (Yes, Even Shy Guys!)

Surely men know how to kiss a woman right?

I mean, we guys fantasize on a daily basis about grabbing you in the rain and making out passionately like in the movies, and yet, that doesn’t mean we have that kind of courage in real life.

Just because a guy knows you’re having a good time on a date, doesn’t mean he knows when he has the green light to put his lips on yours.

So here are 6 basic steps of how to get a guy to kiss you:

How To Get A Guy To Kiss You

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My New BF Looks At Pics Of His Ex…

Sooo….your boyfriend is talking about his ex.

Mad yet?

Thought so. Not only that, but he’s saying OTHER women are hot (even women from his previous relationships!).

Sometimes we fall hard for someone and totally forget how to draw the line on their unacceptable behaviour. In this week’s LOVELife, my brother Stephen and I talk to a women who wants to know exactly how to deal with this tricky situation and what to say to her guy when he does this.

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Why You Should Slay A Big Dragon This Year (If You’re Not Already)

Stephen Hussey

I’ve always found it helpful to measure my life by what gets done each year.

Some people loathe the idea of the being so bound to the calendar, and choose to ignore it altogether with regard to their goal-setting, but I’ve always enjoyed being able to sit down in December and review all the objectives I completed over the previous 12 months.

Yet what truly excites me is not a laundry list of small bucket list items achieved (e.g. speak at a wedding, travel to Asia, take French classses), but a BIG DRAGON SLAYED i.e. finishing a big project.

I like to look back at those HUGE projects that required focus, stamina, and pushed me in a way that afterwards left me with a true feeling of progress and accomplishment.

Somehow it just feels more motivating for me to work through the year having an anchor, some big, singular beast that I can carve out time for, something I really know will move my life forward or give me true satisfaction upon its completion.

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How to STOP Attracting The Wrong Guys

Why do so many guys turn out to be jerks?? Maybe you’re unlucky. Or maybe men just suck as a gender. But then you realise those are just dumb beliefs.

Then  you consider ANOTHER terrifying possibility: what if YOU are the problem?? What if you’re doing something to attract the bad guys without even knowing why? In this week’s blog video, I want to put this issue to rest once and for all. So many women ask me how to avoid crappy men, and so many times I always want to give the same answer. So here it is…hope you’re ready for me to lay down some serious TRUTH today!

Remember, the sooner you get rid of the wrong ones, the more you’ll have room for the right one.

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