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3 Confident Female Mindsets That Drive Guys Wild (Live USA Tour Footage!)

Hey everyone!

I wanted to give you a little something from my tour so far, so that wherever you are in the world you can get a taste of what’s happening all around America right now.

As I’m sure you know by now, in celebration of my new book GetTheGuy, and my new show on NBC ‘Ready For Love’, I’m going to 10 major USA cities to help women across America find love.

This video was taken from a question and answer session at my LA event (the first stop on the tour). I still have 9 more stops to go, and there is still time to get tickets.

Grab your tickets!
I hope you enjoy the video. You’ll see me answering questions asked live by the audience. Amongst the questions I answer are:

–How do I deal with it when a guy is blowing hot and cold?

–What if I shut down with new guys because I’ve been hurt in the past?

–Is it ok to date multiple men at the same time?

–How do I figure out if he has a girlfriend or not when I first meet him?

–What should I do if I keep attracting the wrong men?

Enjoy!

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>>Pre-order your copy of Get The Guy now…


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  1. Keri says:

    Hi Matthew. Thank you for your outstanding advice! It has been helping me on my journey to find happiness. Many people have told me that I will not find someone to be with. My parents are a couple of those people. I was with a guy for about 2 1/2 years and I thought we were working out. We were there for each other and really connected on an emotional level. He wants to date other people “just to be sure” that we will work out. It hurts coming in second place after everything that we have been through and it hurts hearing some negative feedback others have given me. A part of me wants to “fix” things, a part of me wants to be sad, and a part of me wants to move on because he doesn’t deserve me. What do I do?

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    Hi Matt and Matt’s team,
    I have the book and have been putting it into practice. My question is about a slightly slutty friend who, if asked, leads with sexual conversation on the first date, and usually has sex on the first date (I convinced her to at least wait until the second and that was the longest/best relationship she’s had).
    How do I broach some of the topics in the book? I understand her need to know what’s under the “hood” so as not to be disappointed later and get a dud but she’s not 41 and no bf to speak of. We are both worried about her and her shady (craigslist) prospects. Help please. And she’s not ready for the book or a seminar at all.
    I have to work on her a bit more.
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  12. Aviva says:

    Matt makes a really great point in this video — if you are proactive, then you will get results. Most women just complain about being single but don’t do anything about it.

    I was extremely proactive (going out, online dating, being set up by friends) and it took me only 5 months to find my absolute perfect man — who is equally as excited about and into me as I am into him. I highly recommend reading the book The List, in addition to following Matt’s advice. It worked for me, I am happier than i’ve ever been in my life!!!

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  15. Jen says:

    It’s amazing how so many of ur ideas Matthew can be transferred into all aspects of life. I first started reading to get ideas about dating and becoming more confidnet in that area but have found myself also thinking about it in terms of general relationships with people. A friend once said that I can be too independent at times and that others are here to help. Thinking now my independence keeps even friends at a distance as much as it does guys. I’ve been hurt by friends in the past when I need them (as well as partners) so I stopped letting people do things for me so that I never needed to rely on them or test their abilities to help/be there for me. all this protecting myself from hurt means that no-one is allowed close and relationships are kept at a superficial level. Allowing men to be the man is not the only thing I need to lean, allowing friends to be friends is also key. Generally taking down those Walls I built! So keep it up matt, and ladies don’t just take the advice for partners but think about other aspects of life. I hope to keep being inspired by ur ideas on relationships. I think i should really read the book!

  16. Samantha says:

    This is for everyone! Matthew said it right with what I am calling “getting through the garbage”. I had to ask my long time friend the other day, if it was me sending vibes, since 3 married guys have hit on me in the last week, and no single ones. Granted I have not been out much, but when I was, this is what I got. He is right, we are beautiful and fun and all men love that, but the “garbage” are the ones that feel they could show it.

    I am not letting myself change and nor should anyone that is awesome the way they are, just because of the “garbage” out there. I know that quality is around the corner for me. Like you said Matthew, we need to get out there and show the level of who we are, as we are.

    Thank you for all you do. You are awesome and so glad I have you here.

  17. Wijdane says:

    OMG! I am very very thankful dear Mathew ! This video really helped me ! I feel confident now ! I don t have to feel shy or awkward anymore ! U really saved my love life thank u sweetheart xxx

  18. Tamara says:

    Thank you for sharing this video. It sounds like they, and you aswell, are having a great time together. Being open and feeling confident in sharing their experiences, listening to one another and learning.

    Thanks again for sharing! You’re doing great to me! Enjoy the rest of your tour!

    Love, Tamara

  19. lydia romary says:

    I am soooooo glad I find you on you tube I love everything about you I reallyyyy what to meet you soooo bad in person. its like a dream if the would happened u always help me when I am having a really bad day with guys thanks for everything Matthew;))))

  20. Kathryn says:

    Matthew, since I received your book yesterday I could not put it down. I have to drive to London today and I am shattered. It has been going round my head all night. I liked what you said about texting. Nothing worse than having it all going for you and ruining it after one or two texts, especially after a glass of wine which is when you actually feel compelled to send one!
    I have noticed we are all from different countries on this blog. What with all the travelling we do these days I would be interested on your thoughts to keep attraction going over Skype?
    Kathryn
    Xxx

  21. Debbie Bridge says:

    Hi Matthew, awesome video. I know that you are touring around the USA currently but do you have any plans to tour in New Zealand and Australia? As we need help down here too :)

  22. Lisa says:

    Hey Matthew,

    I think you should have a pocket guide or flash cards (maybe both) we can carry on us..love seeing this! I hope to get your book soon. I was laughing out loud when I heard your responses but you definitely answered questions I had. I’ve attracted sleezebags and it made me feel awful about myself but it says more about that particular individual not on me. Thanks..

  23. Paula says:

    Hi Matt, thanks for your video and all the hard work. I have been following your work for a while. hopefully you will eventually come to south africa. i have tried some of your technics but to no avail. I was married for 14 years. Divorced for 9 years. Have been on many dates but that is about all. Nothing comes to pass. I did meet somebody 5 years ago. I have very strong feelings for him but he is not interested in a relationship just on a very casual friendship. I have never told him about my feelings. but would like to do it now. I don’t really have anything to loss but hope I will not damage the friendship.. what should I do? thank you !!

    • Rebecca says:

      Look up Matt’s youtube video on:
      What Does It Mean When a Guy Just Wants to be Friends
      before you do anything

      • Rebecca says:

        (you need to change something in the dynamics of the relationship before doing anything else, so that by the time he knows how you feel, he will be more likely to have started feeling the same way. Matt’s youtube video will tell you how to do this.Don’t tell this guy your feelings until the dynamics have been changed)

  24. Tania Phan says:

    Really, I can’t pull myself back from stopping watching this video. It’s so amazing, funny and definitely useful for me. Thanks a lot, Matt.

    You’re so incredible in every way. Just keep going! :x:X:X

  25. Diane says:

    Hello, Matt !
    I totally loved this video. You made good points and at the same time you make us laugh. It makes me want to participate at one of your events. I’ve been thinking about that for a long time, but as a student, I don’t have enough money to do it (I already have my rent and my bills to pay).

    Your answer to the woman who seems cold and unapproachable has particularly interested me because I have the same problem. i’m not used to let someone take care of me. I was taught to take care of myself really early. Old habits die hard. ^^

    Your advices will help me a lot ! I will still see if I can do something to attend one of your seminars.

    Kind regard

    Diane

  26. Lea says:

    Many thanks! I really enjoyed watching this video!!!

  27. Lady in waiting says:

    Thanks you sharing with us! I’m currently single but I’m very interested in a guy I know. I’ve known him for a few years now. When we are alone we talk non-stop but when we are in a group he kind of closes off. Sort of like he doesn’t know what to say. Especially if his ex is in the same room. I’m so confused. I catch him staring and smiling at me, but he’s never really said anything that would have me to believe he likes me. I’ll ask him to help me do something and almost every time he jumps at the chance. When he is talking to me and is trying to assure me or tryng to make a point he touches me. And when we are in a group he stands next to me or across from me. I don’t know if he’s just being nice or if he likes me. If someone could please help me I would greatly appreciate it. And if you have any tips on how to show him I’m interested or for me to know he is interested in me I would love it.

    • Rebecca says:

      It really does sound like he likes you. He just seems to have a touch of uncertainty, or interior conflict, or something as well. But I would say yes, he does like you.

    • Susanne Love says:

      Dear Lady in waiting :)

      You are single & interested in a guy YOU know since a few years :)

      I wish YOu all the best ways to show him YOU are interested :) & to see if he is interested in YOU :)

      How to tell if a guy likes YOU instantly:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJe_C-iF3Bk

  28. Vanessa Bumagny says:

    Hey Mathew, I am a singer songwriter from Brazil and I think I am going to start using some of your ideas In my lyrics!
    Come to Sao Paulo sometime, we will make sure to find You a translator.
    And here, too, men and women are not talking to each other…unfortunatelly.
    All the best,
    Vanessa

  29. Denisse says:

    Wow!! You are right so many men and women don’t talk to each other. This video was awesome!! :)

  30. Vicki says:

    Hello, Matthew–

    This clip really puts things into perspective; you are a natural motivational speaker, very engaging and funny.

    “Just because he’s a stalker, it doesn’t mean he has bad taste!” Let that be my mantra. I always thought like these women thought that attracting crazies and weirdos meant there was something wrong with me, as if I had a big target on my back. You totally turn things around on this misperception. You appreciate and value women in a way we don’t value ourselves because we don’t know our own power. Your philosophy can apply to anything we do in life, not just dating. And might I suggest you give a few tips for guys on getting he girl?

    I’m at the age where my friends and I are dating divorced men, some who have been bossed around and hen-pecked for 20 or 30 years and are used to the women planning all the activities and directing the relationship. They come across as passive and emasculated in their interactions with us. They are unrealistic and want a combination of Annie Oakley, Halle Berry, Ginger AND Mary Ann. They want someone who can “climb Mt. Rainier in the morning and change into an evening gown at night.” (They actually say, that; just read some of their online profiles.) They want a fairy princess who is trim, fit and beautiful when the men are not. They use texting to keep us simmering on the back burner and to avoid intimacy. Whatever happened to a good old-fashioned phone call to follow up after a date?

    My last date, a strapping man of 6’4 texted me and said he is not the “aggressor type.” Well, neither am I. It does not make me feel like a woman to have to lead the conversation, draw the guy out, get him to talk and make him feel secure. Nor do I want to take responsibility for planning all the dates. The female as pursuer has taken hold in American society; women have to take responsibility for this trend as well. This is not the way it works in nature or in the rest of the animal kingdom (note how hard a lion or a wolf or even a bird has to work for sex). A guy who tries, who is charming or who just talks to a woman as you say is way ahead of the rest of the pack. It is time to turn back the pendulum and stop giving everything of ourselves away all at once.

    My friend was so impressed with your video that she signed us both up for your seminar in Seattle, and I have invited another friend as well. Hope you have some advice for us baby boomers and Gen-X’rs who are dealing with post-40 Wounded Bears. I have watched this clip 3 times and will watch it several more until it is hard-wired into my brain.

  31. nabila says:

    great answers matt, so convinsing :) thanks :D

  32. sabrina says:

    As usual, this is just fantastic information & you put it in a way that makes it easy for me to “get it”. Plus, the messenger is so cute to look at that I really pay attention :)

    Thanks Mathew :)

  33. Mary G. says:

    Matthew you’re absolutely amazing…
    Everything you say are true and make a point when you apply them…
    I adore the way you are showing us the inside of a man’s way of thinking.It’s an incredible gift to us.
    Thank you is not enough, but

    THANK YOU

  34. April Adkins says:

    After over a hundred plus one time dates, I know I have NO problem getting a date. The problem I have is getting a man to call me and ask for another date within a day or two and not for just sex. I am tired of being contacted weeks later with a text that says “HEY”. I mean come on!!! I can pretty much tell by now who is interested in me and who is not when we first meet. This is why I stop meeting for dinner, and just for coffee, easy escape for the both of us if we are not interested in one another. The men that are attracted to me are the ones that do not have jobs, players, losers, and commitment phobs. They all will keep in touch with me just to see if they can go to bed with me, and when they don’t get very far they disappear.
    I am not sure what I am doing so wrong, I try very hard to dress conservatively, and keep conversation neutral to not attract men for one thing, but I have either been told I was very sexy..or too tall. It feels like I can’t win.

  35. Lita Walnuss says:

    Hi Matt
    I’ve been following your progress and achivements, let me first say congratulations on it, your abroad and giving live conf! ;) super
    Secondly – and even if i never comment anything – i want to say that i loved the video i just saw.
    You teach emotional intelligence to women but guys should ear it too!
    And YES, both women and men need eachother, and those who do s*** we such just ignore them :) why would that affect our self-estime?
    Learning to understand eachother parts would ABSOLUTLY make it a HAPPIER WORLD!
    Keep up the good work,
    cheers and xoxo
    Lita ;)

  36. Julia says:

    Dang, you hit the nail on the head. For myself, I felt I was doing all the wrong things and coming in to strong.
    So I took a time out from dating, now I’m working on my conversations skills and making friends. As a way to increase my comfort/conversation skills with those guys I meet.
    I can’t wait to meet you in person.

  37. Red Apple* says:

    Haha, you’re really cool, Matt :D loved your comments :D

  38. Matthew Hussey says:

    Thanks for all of your comments! So touching!!! I really enjoyed this seminar, and am having so much fun going around the country right now doing this. As I write this I’m in a coffee shop in New York getting ready for my Manhattan event. We are almost sold out, it’s a crazy dream come true.

    Massive to love to all of you guys, and thank you for commenting on the blog. Be sure to answer each others comments where possible. I want to make sure this is a place where we don’t just comment, but try to help each other out too. If someone is asking about something you yourself have experience with, be sure to share your experience and knowledge with them!

    Anyway, let’s keep this thread going! I’m reading the new comments every day!

    Matthew xxx

    • Janey says:

      I smiled at a nice guy in Tesco today Matt, you have no idea what a challenge that was for me, i’m very shy u see.. Thing was tho, i popped in on my way home from the gym, could i look any worse! That always happens doesn’t it, never when i’m wearing nice clothes or have my makeup on!

      I’m practising every day the things u have said, one day i’m hoping i will turn someones head!

      Xx

    • Leslie says:

      I am attending your Manhattan event on April 13th. Now atfer watching this video, I am even more excited!! Looking forward to seeing you Matthew!
      x

    • Susanne Love says:

      This is one of the best places on this planet::: YOU are here :) and YOU truly love :)
      We are so incredibly lucky :)
      All the best possibilities for YOU to LOVE & touch hearts & save peoples lives in the best ways :)♥&♥ Enjoy all the best too Matthew Hussey :)
      You are truly warm-hearted::: Thank YOU for your massive LOVE for everybody :) Always all the best love for YOU as well :)

      I kiss lovely Hosana for every heart YOU touched ♥&♥ for every life you saved :)

      Looking forward to all the best love stories :)

      Wow YOU are in NY and having fun :) Great great great :)

      I believe everybody who loves loving and life :)
      will enjoy all the massive love at your Manhattan event :)

      wow YOU are reading comments every day :)
      Commenting and helping each other is a beatiful idea :)

      Take care :)and enjoy all the best in NY and Manhattan :)

      Susanne

  39. Lo says:

    Hahaha .. I just simply LOVED IT!! Good job Matthew! That’s what brought you were you are right now.

    Hugs

  40. Severine says:

    Great video and nice refresher! I hope the women who attended or will attend in the US will enjoy as much as I did. My perspective on men and more importantly about myself has radically changed since then. Well done Matt!

  41. Sydney says:

    Solid.

  42. Marie says:

    Really great video – thanks for that!
    Had the funniest night out saturday and met some great English guys ;) Good to have your advices in mind!
    Marie from Copenhagen

  43. Irene says:

    Great job Matt.!!!!

    You have point in anything you say and I so agree with you.! I loved how you said, we don’t have to be always strong women or be strong women but do not show it let men do things for you just because it’s a lot more fun..!!:))

    You should direct your intrest Cyprus as well, I think we have serious issues here with guys and women they just stopped talking to each other, we need you here to fix some things.!!!

    I hope ill see you and attention some if your seminars one day.!!

    Best of the luck to you.!!!

  44. Diana says:

    Matt,
    Thank God I’ve found you. I have recently separated after 27 years of marriage and find myself totally adrift and quite vulnerable on the dating scene. I now feel like I have an anchor :-)Please come to Australia- would love to meet you in person. Looking forward to the release of your book and have pre – ordered it.
    Would really like to hear your thoughts about older women dating younger men sometime. Can it work long term do you think? Look forward to hearing lots more from you.
    Cheers
    Diana x

  45. novalee truesdell says:

    yes matt, i already watched it right away the first time you sent it out to the email list and three times more later in the day!!!
    thank you , but dont worry, i always watch the vids as soon as they are delivered to me inbox!!!

  46. Adelle says:

    Hi Matt

    It’s currently saying video is unavailable. Not sure if it’s technical. Please help asI’d love to view it.

    Thanks

  47. Ingii says:

    As usual great stuff!! I felt like this video is directed to me and my girlfriend who I recently introduced your website to (and is now addicted to GTG). Keep up the good work, Matt! Wish only good things comes to you =) and take care

  48. Mayela says:

    This was awesome! Thanks Matthew :)
    It’s great to see you in your element… I hope you can expand your tour to Latin America soon ;)

  49. Grace says:

    Thank you, Matthew. I admire you. I am enlightened. I share this video with two of my girl friends. These are what I love the most from you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you
     Smile back when a guy smiles at me
     Love what I do so passionately that nothing negative can penetrate it
     I can always choose to grow up

  50. Carmen says:

    Matt,I loved the Q/A format to the seminar.I’m approachable the majority of the time.I want a confident man that knows what he really wants and not waste my time for 3yrs.

  51. Divya says:

    Matthew:
    Your videos make me feel good about myself, every time I feel so unwanted. I can see myself changing after hearing you. Keep doing what you do. This world and girls like me need it. Thank you. <3

  52. Holly says:

    Awwww matty :”-D,

    I enjoyed this video soooooo much :)

    Well first i will start off saying how much i trust in your opinion and just for that reason alone, i look up to you and respect the things you.

    Watching that video made me laugh, cry, filled me up with confidence, all in on
    go.

    Well mathew hussey, i chose to be a strong, confident, feminine women all for the love of good man.

    I know i’m all worth it because i have pretty eye’s, a cute smile and a figure to be proud of but most importantly i’m truly beautiful at hear.

    YOU are my living proof that good men egzist, so for that reason, for every man i meet will be a stepping stone on my path to success with men.

    Have a great day :)

  53. Rohi says:

    Hi Matthew :)
    I really want to come to your NY event on April 13th but I would like to know where it is in NY before buying a spot because I have to take train in from another state (which I’m trying to figure into my poor college student budget haha). Any info would be appreciated :)

  54. Magali Fabricina says:

    Matt, you are intelligent, smart, funny, talented, sexy, creative. I wonder if you’re a nice person, too and if this advice works on YOU, too!

  55. Marina says:

    I love your blog!!! I’ve been here for a year… It’s time to say how I appreciate your work and your love for doing it!! All the best in your book release!!

  56. Tricia says:

    Great video and advice. I would love attending one of your seminars!
    Do a tour in Australia! We want you down under!

  57. Louise says:

    I am wondering how do you get someone to offer help even though you know you can do it. I am able to do a lot and men know I can and so dont offer to help. I dont want to have to act weak and ask them to do eveything for me but I wud like d enjoyment of them doing it for me :)

  58. Janey says:

    I like listening to you.. Maybe not only have a book, but have a DVD of your seminars too! Really good Matt, wish you had been around years ago!

    You’re quite cute too ;o)
    X

  59. Susanne Love says:

    Ps. Truly enjoyed watching your video :)

    Here a little something for YOU as well :::
    Enjoy Alberta moments dear lovely HERO :)

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  60. Viola says:

    This is amazing! You are so young, Matthew, for your wisdom. There were no answers yet that would disappoint me. You seem getting to that level of knowledge which seem rather complete. I really want to hear more and see more of your videos; it is never tiring but filling. Your techniques work and I experienced it! But too sad though that not all women know the secret that you’re revealing to us. All of us are taught about far-far away country in which there is a tower with a princess in it; and that princess is us. We ought to sit there and wait until the man in a shiny armor come and rescue us. But he doesn’t come; and we wait, and wait, and wait. Sometimes, he arrives but is distracted by the castle view on the mountain top, or by another tower that stands on a hill. Sometimes gypsies steal him away; but we are still there waiting. Some of our sweetness turns into bitterness, hair turns gray, but we wait and pray for him to come. Soon, the tower window is getting sealed by the flow of despair, and the building turns into a mold. But then Matthew Hussey comes and screams from the top of his lungs: “Get out of that molded tower!!!” Thank you for rescuing us all! :)

    • Susanne Love says:

      Beautiful love story Viola :) Very oh very nice :)How wonderful true heroes always love to come to rescue in the best way :) After all, to love & save lives is a heroes passion :)

      We are so incredibly lucky :) Matthew is here :) and if he is in our heart, he will never be far away :)
      Because he is here :)in our heart :)

  61. Susanne Love says:

    Hey lovely HERO :)

    One of the best videos on this planet :)
    Why ? :)
    Because it’s YOU Matthew Hussey, it’s YOU :)

    I kiss Lovely Hosana for creating YOU & for all beauty in your HEART :)

    Enjoy all the loving & touching HEARTS ♥&♥ saving peoples lives dear lovely handsome HERO

    Susanne

  62. Bianca says:

    Hi Matthew!
    Loved the video! You made it all seem so simple :D I guess that’s the point most women don’t get :D

    Anyway, I have 2 questions, but because I am an 20-year old student in Belgium, it’s not that easy to go to one of your sessions :D

    Ok, so my questions:
    - I am trying to put myself out there, to have fun and meet new people. But when I am meeting a cute guy, I am not the flirty type of girl. Even though, he might be really handsome, I still need to get to know him well enough to feel attracted to him. So at first, I just talk to him, no flirting. As we continue to talk, I want him to do the first moves. And by first move, I mean like asking to hang out again. The thing is, most guys don’t. They act as if they are interested in me the entire evening,and that’s it. It’s just that I have been called a pretty girl a couple of times, and I don’t want to be seen as this easy-to-get-girl if you know what I mean. That’s why i don’t want do the first move.
    how can I let the other ‘good’ guys know I like them and get them to do the first moves, without having to be all flirty?

    - Are guys intimidated by virgins?? Because i am one and i’m already 20-years old. It makes me really insecure..

    Sorry for the long message but I hope you will find a little bit of time between your sessions to answer my questions :D

    greets from Belgium !
    xx

    • Rebecca says:

      20 years old is not actually that old :)

      • Leading Lady says:

        (MY RESPONSE IS IN THE CAPS-SO DON’T THINK I’M SHOUTING. I’M NOT.)

        - I am trying to put myself out there, to have fun and meet new people. But when I am meeting a cute guy, I am not the flirty type of girl. Even though, he might be really handsome, I still need to get to know him well enough to feel attracted to him.

        FLIRTING IS A CONFIDENCE ISSUE. BUT FUN TO BE AROUND IS A TYPE OF FLIRTATION AS WELL. AND IF YOU’RE STANDOFFISH TO THEM, THEY AREN’T GOING TO THINK YOU’LL WANT TO TAKE THINGS TO ANOTHER LEVEL.

        IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU’RE ACTING LIKE THEIR FRIEND, YOU’LL GET TREATED LIKE THEIR FRIEND. YOU GET WHAT YOU PUT OUT. JUST SAYING.

        AS FOR ATTRACTION, I’VE NEVER KNOWN 100% THAT I LIKE A GUY UNTIL THE THIRD DATE. BY THAT TIME YOU SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN ENOUGH OF A TASTE OF WHO HE IS, AND WHAT HE’S ABOUT BEFORE YOU HEAD OFF INTO A RELATIONSHIP. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW SOMEONE BY LOOKS ALONE BECAUSE *NO ONE* EVER GIVES YOU A GLIMPSE OF WHO THEY ARE AS A HUMAN BEING IN THE FIRST MEET. EVER! I’D GET OVER THIS IDEA AND QUICK OR YOU’LL BE WAITING ON A MAIL ORDER GROOM TO BE DELIVERED VIA POST WHO ACTS MORE LIKE A ROBOT THAN A MAN!

        PERSONALLY, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT MAKES YOU SEXY AND WHAT MAKES YOU SPECIAL. AT 20 I BARELY KNEW WHO I WAS. AT LEAST YOU’RE SOMEWHERE IN THE FIELD ATTEMPTING TO FIND OUT! I DIDN’T FIGURE OUT WHO I WAS UNTIL I WAS 26! YOU’VE GOT SOME TIME!

        So at first, I just talk to him, no flirting. As we continue to talk, I want him to do the first moves. And by first move, I mean like asking to hang out again. The thing is, most guys don’t. They act as if they are interested in me the entire evening,and that’s it. It’s just that I have been called a pretty girl a couple of times, and I don’t want to be seen as this easy-to-get-girl if you know what I mean. That’s why i don’t want do the first move.

        I’LL BE HONEST, YOU NEED TO MAKE UP YOUR MIND. EITHER YOU WANT HIM TO MAKE ALL THE MOVES OR YOU DON’T WANT THEM TO SEE YOU AS AN INANIMATE OBJECT. ACCORDING TO WHAT YOU’VE WRITTEN, YOU’RE THE INANIMATE OBJECT THEY SEE AS A NICE FIXTURE, NOT AS A HUMAN BEING. CUT THAT CRAP OUT! YOU SAY YOU DON’T WANT TO BE EASY TO GET, BUT HOW IS HARD TO GET WORKING FOR YOU? GUYS WILL NOT, CANNOT, AND DO NOT THINK SOMEONE WHO’S STANDOFFISH (AND NON-TALKATIVE, CONFIDENT, NOT FUN, ETC…). LEARN TO BE EASY GOING, HAPPY AND FUN TO TALK TO AND FLIRTY COMES NATURALLY BUT IT TAKES PRACTICE. YOU’D BE SURPRISE HOW SIMPLE A TOUCH ON THEIR ARM AS YOU’RE RESPONDING TO SOMETHING A GUY SAYS CAN DO.

        P.S I NEVER WON AS A NICE GIRL. BEING THE NICE GIRL MAKES YOU THE BEST FRIEND IN THE MOVIE OF YOUR LIFE AND **EVERY WOMAN** DESERVES TO BE THE LEADING LADY!!!

        how can I let the other ‘good’ guys know I like them and get them to do the first moves, without having to be all flirty?

        KEEP YOUR SHIRT ON AND WEAR A CAPE OF CONFIDENCE AND APPROACH HIM. IT’S LIKE YOUR LOOKING FOR SOME SECRET CODE OR MAGIC POTION THAT WILL GET THEM TO WALK OVER TO YOU AND SAY, “HEY BABY!”. LOL! THAT’S *SO* NOT GONNA HAPPEN! EITHER YOU WANT IT OR YOU DON’T AND NO ONE IS GOING TO JUST HAND YOU WANT YOU WANT (AND IF THEY DO IT’S NORMALLY SLOPPY SECONDS–NEVER THE PICK OF THE LITTER!). YOU’VE GOTTA GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. SO CUT THE “I WANT HIM TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE” AND MAKE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR HIM TO TALK TO YOU INSTEAD. THAT MIGHT INCLUDE YOU SAYING SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS “HI.” IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR IDEAS, CHECK OUT MATT’S YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR SOME “IDEAS” THATS WHERE I STARTED ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO AND THEY ALL WORKED!

        - Are guys intimidated by virgins?? Because i am one and i’m already 20-years old. It makes me really insecure..

        SORRY, BUT AS SOMEONE WHO’S CHOOSING MARRIAGE OVER INTIMACY (AND I’M 30 YRS OLD AND *NOT* A VIRGIN) I CAN TELL YOU THERE ARE GREAT GUYS WHO SEE THIS AS A VIRTUE. IT TELLS THEM THAT YOU DO NOT TAKE INTIMACY LIGHTLY. BUT I DON’T RECOMMEND YOU JUST GIVE YOUR VIRGINITY TO THE FIRST JOE SCHMO WHO WALKS IN THE DOOR. PERSONALLY I THINK THAT IT’S SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE EARNED AND THERE ARE MEN WHO VALUE SUCH DISCRETION.

        P.S YOU’RE “ALREADY” 20 YEARS OLD? PLEASE! YOU’LL BE FINE! LOL

      • Bianca says:

        Hahaha, I know! 20 is not old, but it seems like everyone around me has done it.. I’m like the only one that is a virgin. It kind makes me really insecure…

        • Sydney says:

          Believe in your worth enough to trust that THEY love you as much as YOU love them.

          There is no loss when it comes to love. What you put out you receive in return. It may not be THIS particular man at THIS particular time but it is law that the boomerang always returns.

          Don’t do things expecting to get another to validate your actions, do things because they are FUN. Flirt with guys because it’s FUN Go out on dates because it’s FUN To get to know each other, to share a meal, to become passionately involved in any activity together… When you love yourself to the point where you make it your objective to keep yourself happy (no matter what) – guys will be attracted to you like moths to an open flame. No. You will be a bonfire. Your love life starts inside your heart. Inside your own heart.

          Love,
          Sydney

          P.S. Be shy for as long as it feels comfortable to you and break out or step out when you feel like it. Life is all about choices.

          • Sydney says:

            P.P.S. sex is overrated anyway, unless you’re in love. most people who are having sex in their short-term so-so relationships are missing out on what you potentially will have if you wait for that loving relationship to come into your life.

          • Sydney says:

            (and totally irrelevant) please immediately go eat some chocolate on my behalf :-) or post me some imaginary truffles speedy delivery

          • Bianca says:

            Thank you for your response!!
            The last one made me laugh :D
            And I know, I am totally not stressed or pshy about myself for being a virgin. It’s just that I want to know a guy’s opinion. I don’t what a guys view is about virgins..

            And about the flirting, thing, I’m no good at it at all, but I don’t care about that. I am hang fun and that’s what counts, but it just doesn’t seem enough .. It’s like I NEED to be flirty to get a guys number, but that’s not the way I want things to happen..

            Anyways, I appreciate your responses a lot ! And I’m keeping my head up high! Sometimes it just feels like it’s not enough… :)

            Many imaginairy Belgian chocolates for you and everyone else :D
            xx

    • Rebecca says:

      When you are sexually intimate with someone, it will probably have more meaning for you than for those who had sex more casually, without waiting.
      Some guys really like if a girl is a virgin, but sometimes in a creepy way. They really don’t need to know whether you are or not.

      I’m a virgin, but I don’t tell guys that, except my closest male friend. It’s not their business, and the right guy will like me without regard for whether or not I’m virgin.

      Personally, I have refrained from sex before marriage for religious reasons but even someone with different values can understand that they will value sexual intimacy more if they wait for the right time.

      • Rebecca says:

        P.S. Not every guy would have a creepy attitude. :) (Not my male friend for example) Some guys are creepy, but some are good.

    • Susanne Love says:

      Dear Bianca :)

      YOU are 20 :)
      I hope YOU truly enjoy being 20 & all wonderful years of your life :)
      How amazing YOU were born 20 years ago :)

      & YOU are virgin :)
      I hope one day YOU meet your lovely sweetheart who truly loves YOU :) & I believe if a man truly loves YOU he loves YOU BIANCA :) He loves YOU: ♥ BIANCA THE BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING ♥ :)

      I believe a man with a very good heart will truly focus on YOU & not only on how many times YOU had sex in your life :)

      • Susanne Love says:

        If YOU as HUMAN BEING are in his heart, I believe he will think positive of YOU :) No matter how many times YOU had sex in your life :)

        Looking forward to the wonderful sweetheart who truly loves YOU Bianca :)

        & maybe YOU know Matthew Husseys YOUTUBE videos? :) Best videos on this planet :)& get the guy book, I have not read it yet, but I believe it is ♥♥♥ :)

  63. Lisa says:

    Matt,

    I loved the video. I am from New York City and I want to attend. Where exactly will it be in NYC?

    Thanks!

  64. kim says:

    woooww,bravooo.
    i feel soo much confidence right now,hahaha.
    i believe everything he said,i got a little distracted by the baby blue undie,hahaha..beside that,i feel like im on a new level.like i can do anything and be with anyone i want.i dont know if this is good! and im also pro active this days.i send a guy that i like a message,i only saw him once,and add him at facebook..when he liked my picture,i couldnt stop smilling.it feld really good :) i did that.i couldnt believe it because im scared of everything..what if this,what if that..a lot of what ifs..no mores

  65. Kathryn says:

    Thank you for showing a video of your live workshop for us to see the type of questions and answers you cover. I love how direct your answers are but so sensible and practical ( and funny ). It’s no wonder you attract such a large following, you are brilliant at what you do.

    I have ordered your book and can’t wait to read it. You light up our lives, thank you.

    Xxx

  66. Andrea says:

    Hi Matt,

    this is a great video. Thank you very much. You have an unparalleled way of bringing your point across, and it is wonderful to see your enthusiasm. Your message really hit home with me. I especially like the “pussy” example. That is as if you had made the example for me. I have years of practice getting things done by myself, and I have to work on remembering that men love to help.

    The fact that I have some health restrictions right now makes it a bit easier for me to ask for help since I am not allowed to lift anything. And I experience again and again that I preach to the converted when I ask for help. It is really easy – it is just that sometimes I am a bit stubborn.

    I agree with you that it is better to ask a man whether he has a girl friend. In the past I had once made the mistake of assuming a man was single. We were working in the same company, and he had mentioned his ex gf twice (and had formerly referred to her as his gf), so I assumed he was single. After three coffee dates I found out that he was still with his gf and was dreaming about ending the relationship. I told him he was a characterless person and he should never contact me again. Ever since then I no longer assume such things.

    Best of luck for your tour. You deserve the success.

  67. A says:

    God, Matthew is a STRAIGHT UP BOSS. He’s an “OG”. Lol. (Google it) Lol. I am happy for your success Matthew, you’re an awesome and cool person. I look forward to the tours.

  68. Aga says:

    Hi Matthew
    I can’t wait to see you in New York. You are doing such an incredible job and I adore you passion and enthusiasm! More men should be like you! Ever since I came across your page and got your program over a year ago my entire life changed!! Your system of making friends first and be the person everyone wants to know was the key to my success not only in dating but in my business world too! My career is booming, I make friends right and left with no effort whatsoever and its all due to milimiter change you teach in your program. on top of all that I did get three marriage proposal, serious ones, within last year plus one of a friends professing his secret love for me on Christmas! It was extremaly overwhelming and I wasn’t ready for any of it but now I’m open for love and real relationship and I’m dating three amazing high quality guys who are fighting for me while knowing about each other! The key is I do not sleep with any of them and they know it! That makes me to be a woman of high desire and value for them and they desperately want it! It is an mazing feeling to have options like that and all thanks to you Matthew!
    Anyway, I’m coming to your seminar to personally say thank you and absorb more of your incredible energy! See you soon :)

  69. Julss says:

    Too Bad I live in Mauritius… I would have definitely come to your event!! You’re awesome!

  70. Helena says:

    Thanks, Matt, for that extra video. I really appreciate it. Yet, I am in a slump right now. I haven’t been on a date for a while and I am not even close to my goal – love and marriage. I see so many of my friends married and I do wonder what they have that I don’t. They seem normal and no more special than me. What is it that brings two people together? it is like a HUGE mystery to me. I really do try to learn about all this yet there is something missing. I doubt myself and wonder if I will ever find love.

  71. Misha says:

    Great stuff Matt. Your the Einstein of attraction. You ooze it, you preach it, you help create it. You are brilliant my friend.

  72. veronica mundell says:

    wooo hooo! great video…yes that was value. and reallly nice comments in response to it also. go. go. go. Matt!

  73. Joanne says:

    Hi Matthew

    Excellent video excerpt.

    I first came across you from the article in Metro newspaper some years ago. I’m so glad to have read that article and to know about you & ‘Get the Guy’.

    But tell me, what do guys think about you and what your revealing to women? Do they like or hate you?

    Best wishes

    Joanne

  74. Barbara says:

    I love your video, Matt. Once I was hurt by a guy who just stopped talking to me. I had a really though time getting over him and through all those years didn’t even look at other guys. When I finally got over him, I started to pay attention to other guys again and a few months later got really close with one. We went out on lots of dates for at least 3 months and then he started to suddenly stop speaking, calling and texting me as much. In the end I even felt like he was avoiding me. I don’t even know what I did wrong (if I did anything). I then decided to just not bother myself with him, because this was really starting to lower my self esteem. I distanced myself from him as much as possible, even though I really like/liked (not sure yet) him. After a while I decided to make a drastic change in my appearance and now I feel a lot more confident again. The best part about this was that when I did this, I got lots of good reactions from other people (praises, people telling me how beautiful I look and stuff like that). Before the change I asked him if he wanted to acompany me to an event and he said that he didn’t know and had to think about it. I was seriously mad at him (still kind of am)and decided to just ask somebody else. After the change of appearance I haven’t talked to him anymore. I only say hi to him now. The funny part about this is that now he is looking at me all the time, also trying to talk to me and I just kind of ignore him. He just lost his chance with me, especially after his last answer to my invitation, because we used to talk about going to that event together. I actually feel better now after realising that he’s just not worth it and am hoping to find a better man soon. I feel like I’m even more scared now than I was the first time I got hurt, because I really trusted this guy (even more than the fist one) and thought he was different than the first one. I really hope that the next time I meet somebody I will still be able to open up to them and won’t build up a wall and also that I won’t get hurt by them. Wish me luck!

  75. annie says:

    You’re gorgeous!

  76. Yuetching says:

    Hahahaha I think I would shudder if I have to ask a guy direct if he has a girlfriend or not. LOL x & I love this video of yours. It showscases your charisma!!!and it’s a joy to see you speaking =D I think the points you make are very relevant. If you attract douchebags,it doesn’t say anything about your worth. That’s definitely a positive point to reframe in my mind. Thanks for overdelivering. You are definitely delivering your worth. =D and it helps a lot. Love x

  77. Paula says:

    Matt, you covered some key Q/A here and did it with your usual no-nonsense, down-to-earth approach. Keep it up! Looking forward to seeing you “live” when you are in Toronto!

  78. Dyonisia says:

    Hehe, Matt, what brilliant energy, humour…
    such fantastic guidance…

    I feel the call
    to **be** ‘that woman’ with full heart
    (and no longer settling for a dime less!)

    “Go do it!”

    Yes!!

    Love you.

    xxx

  79. Nofyah says:

    Now I just need the courage to say something to the one day a week guy. I have been thinking about saying I’m going to exercise my options…it’s just so much harder because we have a beautiful girl together. But seriously, I’m lonely, and enough is enough.

    • tess says:

      get out there and find the one who makes you happy ! not because you’re lonely, or you’ve had it, or any reason other than you deserve it. *you deserve it* – that should give you enough confidence to take that first step.

      having a beautiful girl is a treasure, but if the guy is not investing any time at a certain level in you, nothing should hold you back. ‘exercising options’ is just the means – finding the best mate for you is the whole point.

      • Nofyah says:

        The dating world around here is a bit nuts, especially over 40. The men are still under delusion that they are going to marry Barbie virgins, even they themselves are sleeping around and non-committal. And the step-dad business? With a small one it’s less of an issue, but I have teens, too.

        Anyway, thank you, Matt, for another confidence builder, and in less than 15 minutes, too!

        • Sydney says:

          If you don’t have courage to say something to the one day a week guy, I really feel for you because really what someone should do is hit you with a pile of books and tell you “What are you thinking ? You are worth so much more than this !!!!

          I would never suggest this under normal circumstances but I think you could text “I have enjoyed our time together so far and thank you for blah blah blah. I wanted to wish you all the best. Take good care.” Then ignore any desperate voicemails or text-backs. You give and girl, they will just take take take and bleed you dry and you will have done it to urself.

          • Nofyah says:

            I actually said something to him on the phone this evening.

            I said I deserve a very good spouse. And I added that he knows me somewhat, bits and pieces, but that he’s unaware my total value because he isn’t around enough to benefit from it.

            Nofyah

          • Nofyah says:

            *of my total value

  80. Natasa says:

    I would love you even more if you made a video about shy guys. Please? Pretty please?

  81. Kaja says:

    font color = shirt color
    nice :)

  82. Louise says:

    Hi,
    The last part of your video was very interesting to me; I have been doing nothing for years, and there is a reason for this. I moved to London and started working in an office where I discovered a strange phenomenon- women were very ‘closed’ to one another and never discussed anything approaching feelings or romance. I felt like I’d landed on a strange world, total culture shock. As it was a large city the sheer size of the place and the people I knew made me clam up and think that to show your feelings about men was bad and ‘common’. Deep down I don’t agree with this attitude, but cities have a strange effect on shy folk, and I’m finding it hard to shrug this feeling off. Some suggestions please?
    Thanks
    L

  83. roze says:

    well done

  84. Christina says:

    Matthew is a wonderful person who truly cares about people. He’s a rarity…a successful, talented celebrity who’s authentic and caring.

  85. Holly says:

    I’m 19, and I’ve never been kissed. However the only reason I haven’t is because I’ve never settled for second best. Now that I’ve developed more as a mature woman I’m getting more and more attention from the RIGHT kind of guys. I feel attractive and capable of one day getting ‘the one.’ Thank you so much for validating my methods! Watching this video has really helped me and I feel that I’ll definitely be able to get a boyfriend, hopefully by the end of this year!

    • Susanne Love says:

      Dear Holly :)

      YOU are 19 :)
      I hope YOU truly enjoy being 19 & all wonderful years of your life :)
      How amazing YOU were born 19 years ago :)

      & YOU have never been kissed…
      I hope one day YOU meet your lovely sweetheart who truly loves YOU :) & if he truly loves YOU I believe your first kiss will be amazing :)

      Best kisses for YOU :)

  86. April says:

    Hi, Matthew. I always feel energised after watching your videos. I’ve been doing so for half a year and am in a happy relationship for two months now. But I have an issue. My parents are terribly controlling despite the fact that I’m over 25. It’s hard not to consider their feelings though (I know how crazy it sounds). I guess the guy I’m dating with was attracted to my confidence (when I was single). Now, even though he has not said so, I myself am feeling increasingly inadequate in giving my best in this relationship because there’s always the looming spectres of my protective parents. I don’t want to be a tough choice in the future that it will be either them or him. I know there are many people out there with this problem. Yet, communication with them hasn’t worked. Though moving away further from them can minimise their indirect but negative impact on the relationship, still, in the long term, I really don’t know how everyone can be happy in the same place. Well, my parents haven’t met him yet, but my mother is full of imaginative ideas that it won’t work. Anyway, feel better having shared it :)

    April

    • Jane Doe says:

      Hi April,
      My parents are super strict and controlling too and im already 22. I cant stand how much they control my life and it’s because of them that im unhappy. Im currently living with them while im finishing my college. Its hard to get a boyfried or even friends because i cant go out a lot because they wont let me. I dont even have a car to be able to drive by myself. I wish i can have freedom..and know how to be free from their over controlling mind

    • Susanne Love says:

      Dear April :)

      YOU feel energized after watching Matthew Husseys videos :) Very nice :) I wish YOU always the best energy after watching his heart-touching videos :)

      YOU are in a happy relationship since 2 months :) Happy sounds fantastic :)
      How lovely Matthew knows how to create wonderful relationship :)

      I wish YOU the best relationship on this planet::: with the man who truly loves YOU :) & all the best possibilities for your dear mum to see his true love :)I’m sure it’s possible to see true love & I believe your dear mum would be incredibly happy about a man who truly loves her beautiful daughter :)
      Always true love for YOU :) & the always the best mother-daughter love :)
      Take care :) & By the way I feel amazing too after watching Matthew’s videos :)

  87. Megan says:

    That’s really helped me Matthew thanks, I’ve been hurt in the past by liking someone and they ended it by just stopping texting me,no explanation and this guy I have been going on dates with for 6 weeks has just stopped texting me as often. It sounds childish saying it outloud but I’m a worried…so after this advice I know not to put my wall up but I’m afraid. This video was perfect timing, thank you :)

  88. caroline says:

    Haha @ crazys and weirdos … At least they had the balls to talk to me – they just dont get to chat too long ;)
    Love your work Matt; bringing us closer x

  89. Cathy says:

    Inspirational. I am always trying to do things for my self. Last week a guy (I liked) offered to get me a wine glass the bar had run out down stairs and I said no I can do it myself. Next time I am going to let him help me with something becuase then I will be able to reward him for his kindness. Enlightling Matt thanks. See you in the uk soon.

  90. Suzie G says:

    Haha loved the video and enjoyed being there for this event. Your one of a kind and I wish you the best. You deserve it! Thank you again for allowing me to take a picture with you. I forgot to tell you at the event that I have been a fan since all of this well deserved fame came to you. Again if it matters, I am most defintely proud of you. Keep it up and always know you have a personal cheerleader!! ;))

  91. Rumors says:

    OMG, You make a very good point!!! I´ve trying to tell my female friends what you just said in this video but they don´t seem to understand it. The thing is, I think, that I don´t express myself so clear as you do. For God sake, women out there, be aware that you value a lot and that you don´t have to try to be superwoman to be a strong person. Well said, Matt!

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