How To Attract A Guy Without Showing That You Like Him
Men are terrible at picking up on signs of attraction. Absolutely awful in fact. When trying to attract a guy you can cackle like a witch at all his jokes, give him unrelenting eye contact at the dinner table and even stroke his arm when you talk to him and he’ll still be none the wiser!
So why would you want to be subtle?
More often than not, whilst men may not be the most astute of creatures when a girl is interested in them, nine times out of ten they will pick up on the signals that are directed towards their friends, and inevitably this information arrives at it’s intended
destination.
A big factor in men being so oblivious to your interest is self-doubt. They repress any attraction signals from you and come up with other explanations as to why it’s happening. So if you want to attract a guy while keeping him on tenterhooks, you’ve got to see the obvious signs of attraction from men or at least enough to get him questioning what you’re saying, but you also want to make sure you’re keeping those around him in the dark.
Sounds easy right?
A lot of women like the idea of attracting men without the guy initially knowing of their interest, and so many adopt the approach of trying to attract a guy by being extremely dismissive. They stop smiling or giving him any eye contact, they turn their backs to them if ever in a conversation and they just generally ignore him thinking that guys will jump at the chance of trying to win over such an ice queen.
Doing this will stop even the most relentless of guys in their tracks, so if you continue to do this, I wish you good luck in getting him interested! I assure you that to attract men, it’s imperative that you remain warm and friendly (whilst not giving too much away). And the best way to do this is by giving a guy mixed signals. Women generally don’t understand this when first discover how to attract men, but it’s essential – so keep it in mind.
Mixed Signals
It’s okay to give a guy mixed signals. In fact it’s great! Mixed signals make a guy curious.
When a guy is 100% certain that you’re interested in him (which only really ever happens after some serious convincing from his friends!) he often becomes disinterested. You’ve shown too much interest and so he no longer considers this exciting. Remember that guys like a challenge – not an impossible expedition (like the bitch mentioned earlier) but thrilling excitement brought about by creating curiosity and intrigue.
Alternatively the feeling of certainty becomes too much for him. If he really likes you, in many cases a guy will do nothing about it just because he experiences so much anxiety. If he knows you’re really interested in him, and he still manages to mess things up, imagine what that would say about him! It’s too big of a risk to make.
Be a Bit Flirty With Everyone
Perhaps the best way to disguise your advances is by becoming a generally more flirty person. If he see’s that you’re playfully flirty around other people, it won’t dawn on him (or his friends) when you’re a bit cheeky around him. There is also a massive benefit of winning over the other guys around him – they will start to talk about how playful, funny and attractive you are. The more guys do this amongst one another, the more they reassure themselves of it and the more of a challenge you become!
Now rather than destroying his ego by potentially rejecting him, he’s getting a massive ego boost as in his mind he’s beat a whole host of other guys to be with you. And thats really the secret to attract a guy without him catching on. Myself and the team really enjoy reading your comments and feedback, so if you’ve ever been in a position where you’ve had to attract a guy without anyone else noticing, perhaps at work or at the office, then do let us know!
i really don’t now how to carry this out advice out considering im an 18 year old woman that has never even gone on a date and i have this suety palm problem when ever im nerves 99% so my hand palms are suety 99% of the time making it rely hard to flirt with guys and well the other day this guy was flirting with me he took the seat i was seating in and told me to seat on him and im like i don’t really want to like im 130 i have mas he looked built and im not so im like fine ill sit on the floor cuz all the chairs where taken then he sat next to me and gave my sit to some other tool. he went to hold my hand “that was so cute of him ” but i had to reject him because of my suety palms so what do i do there
That is really awful, I hear from my violin teacher, that she had a student with that same problem… she told me her student went all the places with some kind of cloth or a place to make her hands a little dry.
I am no expert on this kind of problem, but, I think there is some kind of surgery you can do to solve it.
But if you are not willing to do it, I think you should try not to get that nervous. I mean, as Matt himself said in one of his posts, be self confident, and don’t be nervous! Being nervous will just increase the sweating on your hands. You have to be confident, and positive about being around a guy.
If you have, for example, a pimple on your face, always puting your hand on it, will make it more noticible, but if you look handsome, cute, and nice even with it, the guy you are looking for will eventually notice all your good points, and even forget about the problem you have!
You should always care a cloth around, on your pocket on on your purse, so you can be drying your hands quite often and don’t making it a big mess.
I hope I helped you, dear.
From a fellow girl,
Coraline
Angelica needs to go to school.
That is disturbing to see that poor of education in an 18 year old.
Lol suety…
I think there should be a balance in being flirty… Here there is not any indication of how much is too much. Okay, I get that guys can neglect a lot of signs women do and might need something extra. However, girls do not want to attract the wrong type of guys. So at least that part is confusing to me.
So I liked this guy for a while now and i try to take the initiative of confronting him. So he did text me and I did enjoy the conversation. Then he did text me the next morning and I was thinking maybe there might be a chance of attraction or he just views me as a friend. I did texted him to start conversation with him only twice,we talked for a long time but I’m not sure if it seems like if I’m giving him too attention? But from what you said if he knows that I might be interested in him then he becomes disinterested is their anyway way to reverse that? How can I tell that he might be interested in me..
I also want advice for my case.I like the boy who was my fri.at first,i didn’t interest him.he is so flirty with other girls.when i interest him,although i didn’t show i like him,he keep away from me.i asked him why he did like that.and then we had an argue and he said he don’t want to be friendly with me in future because he thought we two are not understanding each other and have different ideas.but i was so depressed because i didn’t expect he would say like that and i love him.how should i do to attract him ?
Hi I hav this guy who acts like he likes me but then doesn’t. I like him! I’m a naturally flirty person so everyone thinks I like everyone. I kinda need help on what I should do. We’ve been really close to dating like three times now but I don’t know what to do from here….
I don’t quite understand why a guy would be anxious, if he knows the girl likes him.
I’m 16 and there’s this guy in my math class that I sit next to. He’s really nice and he helps me when I have a problem on something. We talk occasionally but not very often. And half the time it’s about school work. What should I do to get more of his attention? There’s no other guys that I can talk to or really flirt with in that class so I feel helpless….?